I made it to this thread by reading the excellent article quoted in the OP, and then by following the link in DM Dave's post in the comments section of that site. And wow. Wow wow wow. It took me three days, but I finally made it through this thread -- and it was a feat of strength to resist the urge to toss my phone into the toilet. I have to say, to [MENTION=16814]Ovinomancer[/MENTION], [MENTION=97077]iserith[/MENTION], [MENTION=6779196]Charlaquin[/MENTION], [MENTION=6777696]redrick[/MENTION], and [MENTION=23751]Maxperson[/MENTION]: you all have the patience of saints.
To add to this thread: I'm also a DM who requests an action with a goal and approach.