Showing love to our enablers

[Bullgrit]

Ever since we were dating (in our early 20s), my wife has accepted and supported my gaming hobby. She was never the kind of girlfriend who pulled the old "stay with me today instead of going to play games with your friends" trick. Though she's never played in any of my groups, and she's not at all interested in most of my games, she has never hindered or held me up from playing. She's even gone out of her way to make time for me to game.

She was a great gamer's girlfriend, and she's a great gamer's wife.

She's given me game gifts on birthdays and Christmases.

When she was pregnant and due, she once called me at my regular game session to say, "Honey, sorry to interrupt your game, but I think I'm going into labor." A woman who apologizes for calling during a game to say she's about to have our baby? (It turned out to be a false alarm.)

Today is my wife's birthday. She's a bit bothered by the number of candles her cake now sports, so I won't say her age. (Although, I'm 42.) I'd appreciate it, because it would make her smile, if you'd go to my blog post and say happy birthday to her. Total Bullgrit

Is your significant other supportive of your gaming hobby? Who's your biggest enabler who isn't a fellow gamer?

Bullgrit

 

[Rechan]

Another way to show it: do things for her. You know, surprise her with something she likes when not expecting it. Go out to do things with her.

She's supportive of your fun time, so when you are with her, support her fun time. Or whatever it is she cares about.

 

[Derulbaskul]

Good post... but I'm not allowed to give you more XP, but I did follow the link!

 

[Aus_Snow]

I'm with a gamer girl, and happy about it, if that counts.

 

[JediSoth]

My first wife occasionally pulled the "Stay with me instead" card, but was generally supportive. She'd buy me miniatures, but that's about as far as her support would go.

My current wife (we've been married 5 days, whooo--a gamer friend who happens to be an ordained minister presided) has been ultra-supportive: pointing out where in her basement would make the best gaming area, taking miniature painting classes with me at Gen Con, buying me precious gemstone dice, buying art to put IN my gaming area, basically everything you could actually ask for except for gaming with me (she has a physically disability that makes it difficult for her to sit for 4 hours playing something like D&D).

I've been pretty lucky both times. Of course, I pointedly set out NOT to stick with anyone who denigrated my hobby or pulled the "You're with me now, so you don't need to spend time with any of your friends" card.

 

[Umbran]

Is your significant other supportive of your gaming hobby? Who's your biggest enabler who isn't a fellow gamer?

Supportive? I met she who is now my wife when she showed up to make a character for a D&D game I was running. So, yeah, she's supportive.

The biggest support I've gotten from non-gamers was from my parents. In a world where clearly a lot of kids were getting into trouble, a hobby that kept the kids doing something imaginative in safe places seemed like a good deal to them. Always willing to let us host, and make sure teenage boys had munchies and drinks.

 

[weem]

My wife, like yours, is very supportive of my gaming despite having never played, or shown an interest.

We have been together 7.5 years (married for the last 1.5 now). When the guys (and gal) come over to play, she likes to make snacks (cookies etc). She knows it's important to me and is awesome about

 

[maddman75]

My woman is a gamer herself, but is still very supportive. She wouldn't hesitate to let me, heck would encourage me, to join a game that I wanted to play that she didn't. Considered starting L5R as she has no interest in samurai, but I really don't have time. We've also discussed it that when we have kids, we will either have a regular sitter for game time, or we'll have a day where she goes and games, and a day where I go and game.

 

[Grimstaff]

I've had similar reflections recently, Bullgrit!

 

[noffham]

Oh yeah, my dear wife is totally supportive of my gaming even though she doesn't play. I often wonder, "How'd I get so lucky"?