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The "I Didn't Comment in Another Thread" Thread

Retreater

Legend
Sometimes a thread comes up, and I really want to post in it, but my thought is just a negative comment or a way to criticize someone else's fun. And really, we have enough negativity in this world right now.
Maybe this is a dumb idea, maybe it doesn't belong on this site, but I just wanted to create a thread to say I didn't comment in another thread with a negative post. But I am typing something, and that makes me feel better.
It's been a hard few months, and I tend towards negative posts on this site.
But I didn't post a negative comment, and that makes me feel better. My negativity can stay here in this thread, and it can hold your negativity too if you want. We can let people have their fun while misery is safely in this thread.
So feel free, if at any time you want to post something negative in another thread, maybe just come here and post something else?
 

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aco175

Hero
I didn't post something in the Dice to support Black Lives Matter thread from a few days ago. I was going to talk about some things I had seen about the group and weather or not I could support that, but figured it would be shouted down by people calling me racist and such. That, and this site is more about D&D to me and not politics so I guess I could go elsewhere to find that. It still bothers me though that I think I would be called things for asking questions.
 

Lem23

Adventurer
I didn't post something in the Dice to support Black Lives Matter thread from a few days ago. I was going to talk about some things I had seen about the group and weather or not I could support that, but figured it would be shouted down by people calling me racist and such. That, and this site is more about D&D to me and not politics so I guess I could go elsewhere to find that. It still bothers me though that I think I would be called things for asking questions.
I think the intent of this thread is that instead of saying what you were going to say, you say something different that doesn't cause any arguments etc. Stating that you'd like to say something but won't because you know it'll be called racist is just weasel word dog whistling, and all it does is move the argument from one thread (the BLM one) to a different one (this one). Especially since you were the one to start the BLM dice thread.

I think Morrus' words in the BM thread are probably relevant here, so will quote them again for you:

"I'll add in advance that if anybody finds it necessary to complain about how hearing about somebody raising money for a charity is infringing on them in some way, probably best they find somewhere else to say that."
 

Umbran

Mod Squad
Staff member
I was going to talk about some things I had seen about the group and weather or not I could support that
Mod Note:
Sorry, but this isn't the site to discuss the details of the BLM organization. If you are looking for such, it'll have to be elsewhere.


... is just weasel word dog whistling...

If you have an issue with a post, please report it and walk away.

This kind of accusation serves no good purpose. If they are purposefully acting badly, they now know you can be baited. If they were not, they are now angry at you and have learned nothing useful, because you have used all the tact of Oscar the Grouch.

Either engage with folks with respect, or don't engage at all. Thanks.
 

the Jester

Legend
Maybe this is a dumb idea, maybe it doesn't belong on this site, but I just wanted to create a thread to say I didn't comment in another thread with a negative post. But I am typing something, and that makes me feel better.

... snip...

So feel free, if at any time you want to post something negative in another thread, maybe just come here and post something else?
I think that this is a wonderful idea, and I thank you for contributing to positivity on ENWorld.
 



Hatmatter

Explorer
Nice idea for a thread, thank you, Retreater.

If I gave myself over to knee-jerk reactions, I would probably post ten times more than I do. I learned a long time ago, though, to merely comment when there is an idea I can support or if I can gently suggest some latent positive elements in a post. I subscribe to the notion of adding one's voice to the positive and ignoring the negative, unless it is outright oppression, but that would be irrelevant to the Enworld forum.

And, in reference to Retreaters's original post, a day or two later, I have always felt good about doing this. I cannot recall ever regretting not posting something negative. There is an inherent creation of positive energy in self-restraint.
 

Xaelvaen

Stuck in the 90s
Sometimes a thread comes up, and I really want to post in it, but my thought is just a negative comment or a way to criticize someone else's fun. And really, we have enough negativity in this world right now.
Maybe this is a dumb idea, maybe it doesn't belong on this site, but I just wanted to create a thread to say I didn't comment in another thread with a negative post. But I am typing something, and that makes me feel better.
It's been a hard few months, and I tend towards negative posts on this site.
But I didn't post a negative comment, and that makes me feel better. My negativity can stay here in this thread, and it can hold your negativity too if you want. We can let people have their fun while misery is safely in this thread.
So feel free, if at any time you want to post something negative in another thread, maybe just come here and post something else?
A long time before Monte Cook launched Numenera, I followed his blog. He went through a period of time where he was so absolutely sick of all the negativity on the internet. This was well before the super explosion of politics and all that extra negativity - just the general negativity the internet can bring, so let me be clear I just mean the typical meanness of negativity. One day he had a post where he was going to try to go "Purely Positive" on the internet.

It has been a few years since I read his post from way back then, but it stuck with me. I try to -always- be positive on the internet, but it gets so hard sometimes. For all the times I've typed a well-worded reply into the chat box, and then deleted it and just logged out - this reply is for those wasted moments, breath, and eloquent thought.
 

Hatmatter

Explorer
A long time before Monte Cook launched Numenera, I followed his blog. He went through a period of time where he was so absolutely sick of all the negativity on the internet. This was well before the super explosion of politics and all that extra negativity - just the general negativity the internet can bring, so let me be clear I just mean the typical meanness of negativity. One day he had a post where he was going to try to go "Purely Positive" on the internet.

It has been a few years since I read his post from way back then, but it stuck with me. I try to -always- be positive on the internet, but it gets so hard sometimes. For all the times I've typed a well-worded reply into the chat box, and then deleted it and just logged out - this reply is for those wasted moments, breath, and eloquent thought.
You may have done well during those moments, Xaelvaen. I think there is rarely anything that can be said to negativity; silence is often the greatest response. People are struggling with many diverse personal demons and sometimes they want to goad people into some kind of response just so that they can feel alive. Silence is the best solution.

Of course, if one is face-to-face with someone, compassion can be expressed in other ways. But, online, silence such as you have exhibited in the past is wise.
 


Retreater

Legend
Feeling a little disappointed but I am not going to comment elsewhere. Just going to post here and say that I hope everyone is having a good day and maybe you will get some gaming enjoyment this weekend.
 

Xaelvaen

Stuck in the 90s
Feeling a little disappointed but I am not going to comment elsewhere. Just going to post here and say that I hope everyone is having a good day and maybe you will get some gaming enjoyment this weekend.
Well, the benefit of this thread could also be to talk to fellow gamers on a more personal level. Whatever the cause of your disappointment, feel free to Direct Message me here. Can't say whether or not I can help, but happy to listen.
 

Eltab

Hero
I've had the unusual experience of composing a really good biting retort to some inflammatory thread ... and a moderator closes the thread while I am one-finger-pecking my way through the text. (I type with one finger on mobile devices, four fingers plus a thumb on keyboards.)
It's like Providence or Fortune or something was protecting me from my worst impulses.
 

Eyes of Nine

Everything's Fine
Today I learned alot about individual EnWorlders by seeing what they liked and what they didn't in a thread. I am really disappointed in some of those folks. And really glad the other folks are here because they are saying stuff a lot more eloquently and with more knowledge than I can.
 

Tonguez

Legend
I really dont see the point of a thread in which I dont say what I didnt say because it wasnt the right thing to say the other time when I didnt say it
 



Hatmatter

Explorer
I've had the unusual experience of composing a really good biting retort to some inflammatory thread ... and a moderator closes the thread while I am one-finger-pecking my way through the text. (I type with one finger on mobile devices, four fingers plus a thumb on keyboards.)
It's like Providence or Fortune or something was protecting me from my worst impulses.
Yes, you were blessed man. We don't need to respond to inflammatory statements online. We should stand against evil in person, of course, but 9 times out of 10, responding online just perpetuates anger. So, congratulations!
 

Hatmatter

Explorer
I really dont see the point of a thread in which I dont say what I didnt say because it wasnt the right thing to say the other time when I didnt say it
When someone responds to a post out of anger or spite in a knee-jerk fashion, there is a brief, transitory experience of pleasure. The pleasure of self-righteousness or giving in to anger, or whatever. Some people really get off on it.

If one instead, posts here and others commend him or her for it, the person then receives the pleasure of affirmation from peers without becoming part of the general negativity that infects anonymous online sites of communication. It can be a means of replacing one (pernicious) "hit" with another (virtuous) hit.
 

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