Just to be clear -- if this thread does just end up rehashing the existing two, we'll need to close it. The moderation overhead right now is immense, and we don't have the hours in the day to handle a third identical thread (the post reports number at the top of my screen is red and is not a small number, and it's 1am!) Just an advance warning.
That would be sad and I hope it doesn't come to that, because the impetus behind this thread--unlike the two other threads--is to bring the two sides together, while the other two are more focused on entrenched two-sidedness, so I hope that will be considered with regards to any moderation that does occur.
So to re-frame my intention: How do we bring the two sides together? If both perspectives--as outlined in my original post--are true on their own, how to honor both? I'm going to stroll in the woods, but will try to offer my thoughts later.