As far as I'm concerned this thread is over.
The OP got answers to his questions. To keep heaping dung on the Warlord class is just trolling.
What I mean here, Ki Ryn, is lay off the passive aggressiveness, okay? You alternate your "disappointment" with claims that Wizards' design is "poor" or "lazy". But you have gotten answers that clearly show that this is not the case, and that Warlord players isn't playing a class that "needs balancing mechanically". Warlord players aren't helped by your sniping, so cut it out. Thanks.
The heart of it is
"Fourth edition has fundamentally selfish classes that care only about their own combat tricks and successes." Just because
you don't value "unselfish" powers doesn't mean they are in need of boosting. In fact, the whole
point of the class is to be "underpowered" (in your eyes), so any change originating from you would probably just turn it into something it wasn't designed to be.
If you give the Warlord the same "selfishness" as any other class, then assuming it doesn't simply become overpowered, there wouldn't be any reason to use its unselfish side, would it now?
The whole
point of the class is to go light on "selfish" powers to make it appealing to "unselfish" players.
Once you understand this, you'll realize your attempts will only destroy what's unique about the class. And that would be trolling, 'kay? If anything, my advice would be for you to start a new thread - in the fan creations subforum - where you reskin the Warlord into a new class, adding "selfish" powers (and not forgetting to drop "unselfish" ones to compensate)!