As far as I'm concerned this thread is over.
If you really thought that - instead of being "passive aggressive" yourself - you would have stopped right there. Instead of ad hominem attacks against the OP either post something meaningful to the discussion at hand or go find somewhere else to play.
Back on topic, IMO the Warlord is fundamentally unbalanced in the way that Ki Ryn has noticed. I disagree that the rest of the party is his/her "weapon" - that's a pretty patronizing viewpoint of the other players at the table. The reason people get so worked up about this is the discontinuity between in-game tactical "benefit" (the immediate effect one has on the outcome of an encounter) and the storyline "benefit" (the appreciation, in-game or out-of-game, the others may have for the Warlord's self sacrifice). It's obvious different people play the game for different reasons and expect different things out of the experience. No reason to get threatened by different kinds of players. So, a hearty tut tut on those who would make value judgments on the spirit of the originial post, which was a valid question.
It does look like the question has been answered. The Warlord is indeed punished for self-sacrificing. Of course, that's why it's self-sacrificing and not self-aggrandisement.