Well, different people like different things. And as much as the "common wisdom" and game companies try to deny it, some styles of engagement are diametrically opposed to each other, some preferences are diametrically opposed to each other, or however you want to say that. Some people love optimization, others hate it. Some people love roleplaying, others hate it. Some love lore, others hate it. If one of us loves a style that the other hates, we're not going to enjoy playing together. Not every gamer needs to have a place at every table. That's just not how it works. It's all preferences, so there's no objective right or wrong, sure...but some people simply don't enjoy certain styles of play or engagement. And they don't have to. They get to like and not like things just as much as you get to like and not like things.