What's wrong with me?

[MavrickWeirdo]

If you can afford it, Burning Man might be a good cathasis.

If you think a lot of really amazingly weird art will help. And really mind-blowingly cool, weird people. Hell, maybe a fight of two in the Thunderdome would make you feel better.

Thank you but money is tight and I sunburn easily

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Considering everything I have and am continueing to go through I can't really say much. hang in there.

As one person said- stay busy. If able to, travel, get out and do things. Keep your mind off of things. It'll pan out.

There is someone out there for you I'm sure of it.

I remember my first girlfriend. When we broke up she gave me some odd advice that I now understand.

"There are other fish in the ocean. One must first go there to fish."

Makes sense now. (didn't in 10th grade.)

But how long should I wait before I go fishing again?

 

[genshou]

But how long should I wait before I go fishing again?

That depends on what you're comfortable with. For me, the comfort zone appears to be about two years, for most it's not quite that long.

 

[Treebore]

When? The pain becomes a numbness. The new fish hate hearing you lament about the old fish.

 

[genshou]

When? The pain becomes a numbness. The new fish hate hearing you lament about the old fish.

Which is why you don't talk about the old fish all the time.

 

[Treebore]

Right. Which becomes easier not to do when the pain is now numb. I was in the Navy. Believe me, I saw plenty of idiots sobbing to the "new fish" about how the "old fish" had hurt them, didn't appreciate them, yada yada, ad nauseum. Very pathetic. New fish almost always ran away. The ones that didn't were scary in their own right.

Numbness makes it easier to keep your mouth shut.

 

[Bront]

I appreciate the hug, but I'm still not giving you the beer.

The person I have to convince not to "move into something new fast" is me. I am not a big fan of living alone. The conversation seems to be between the "lonely" side of me vs. the "loyal" side. (and now that you ask, no I don't have a "common sense" side, which is one of the reasons my wife moved out.)

Other than offering to attend counciling with her, which I do suggest, it's probably over. You can talk with her, find out what's wrong, and hopefully you can part amicably at the very least.

As for you, maybe find a roomie, or a smaller place. It will help you financialy, as well as keep you from being alone. You have friends here, but I'm fairly sure you have friends our in the real world as well. Spent time with them. It realy does help.

Stay away from alcohol, drugs, or all that other stuff that's easy to fall into when people get depressed. Keep yourself up, and enjoy.

(And join Living Eberron if you have time )

 

[GeorgeFields]

Thank you for posting.

You're welcome

 

[Piratecat]

Mav, GeoFFields mentions a book in the last post of his Kenzer thread - it may be worth checking out.

I think in your shoes I'd try to go to social events with a lot of people who liked the same stuff I did -- then I wouldn't hunt for a date, I'd just concentrate on meeting people. That's really the first step. And the first step is usually hardest.

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Mav, GeoFFields mentions a book in the last post of his Kenzer thread - it may be worth checking out.

I think in your shoes I'd try to go to social events with a lot of people who liked the same stuff I did -- then I wouldn't hunt for a date, I'd just concentrate on meeting people. That's really the first step. And the first step is usually hardest.

Well then we need to have Gamedays more often.