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Who brings food? The GM or the Players?

Hurske

Villager
I DM and host the games at my house. Early on when we formed, the players all pitch in together for what lunch is being bought or cooked.

They never tell me to pay, as it's at my house, I am the one with the most responsibility in having a clean place for them, as well as prepping for the game, but I always buy a case of soda for the group on game day.
 

S'mon

Legend
I've seen it run both ways, with GMs sometimes taking on hosting duties ("Thank you so much for coming to my home! Have some pulled pork.") and other times expecting snacks to be heaped upon their GM throne ("If you're going to come to my house, you're going to contribute to the snack fund.") Those are two very different attitudes, and it can lead to etiquette confusion when you move between groups.

My question to the board: How does your group play it? And more importantly, how do you convey that information to the rest of the group? Do you make a formal point of it in Session Zero, or just assume that everyone will pick up on subtext?

Comic related.
If I am GM and also hosting, I will tell the players if I am providing food. I don't feel obligated to do so. They are welcome to bring me food, but are not obligated to do so. There is a takeaway and a supermarket across the street if they're hungry.

In practice, I mostly GM at a pub these days. If I GM at a friend's house they normally provide food. If I offer to host at home I normally do so with food because I want to BBQ etc.

If I am a player at someone else's house I'll (hopefully) bring something along. I don't really like it when GMs expect me to give them money for their food budget though. I'd rather they left me to bring my own food than pay for the food they cook.

If I am a player & hosting I'll certainly provide food.

If I am a GM at someone else's house, I am hauling a rucksack of game stuff across London, I certainly deserve to be fed. :D
 
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S'mon

Legend
As GM-host I have a personal rule that no player is obliged to bring food/drink to share. If they do it's great, but some can't afford to and I don't want to make an issue of it.
 

Mallus

Hero
In our current configuration, the hosts provide food -- because they really like to play host -- even if we order out for the main meal. Guests bring booze. Usually wine. Sometimes beer. Bourbon or rye on the nights the gaming session goes all to hell!

The DM/GM is usually a guest. But that's subject to change.
 

S'mon

Legend
The waitress; on my way to game night at the pub right now.
I popped in to my local this evening for a pint & toastie.
Took my pint out to the garden.
The toastie took ages to arrive.
Turned out I play (GM) D&D there so often, the barman had just naturally taken my toastie upstairs to the function room, where it was gently cooling!
 

dragoner

Dying in Chargen
I popped in to my local this evening for a pint & toastie.
Took my pint out to the garden.
The toastie took ages to arrive.
Turned out I play (GM) D&D there so often, the barman had just naturally taken my toastie upstairs to the function room, where it was gently cooling!
I missed game night last week, and then popped in for a pint or two on a Sunday, and the bartender said she missed me. My little joke about it is: "My drinking group has a gaming problem." The upside is that they will give us complimentary drinks, or even a pizza, occasionally.
 

ccs

39th lv DM
In both the groups I play with its generally everyman for himself.
The 5e game runs at the local shop. Soda, chips etc if you buy your stuff there. But all you have to do is walk outside & you've got nearly 15 options within walking distance. About triple that with a 5 min. drive.
And a good # deliver.
Now & then we'll all chip in on an order.
Our Sunday PF game is hosted at a buddies.
He lives about 3 miles from the shop, so once again, no shortage of food.
 

Gilladian

Adventurer
In the current game, we have a player who brings bags of popcorn and cheetos every week. Since 3 of the 5 players live in my home, we also provide snacks/drinks. Usually this is in the form of other chips but sometimes includes desserts, fruit or nuts or other snacky stuff that we've got around.
 

5ekyu

Adventurer
I've seen it run both ways, with GMs sometimes taking on hosting duties ("Thank you so much for coming to my home! Have some pulled pork.") and other times expecting snacks to be heaped upon their GM throne ("If you're going to come to my house, you're going to contribute to the snack fund.") Those are two very different attitudes, and it can lead to etiquette confusion when you move between groups.

My question to the board: How does your group play it? And more importantly, how do you convey that information to the rest of the group? Do you make a formal point of it in Session Zero, or just assume that everyone will pick up on subtext?

Comic related.
At our group, food is not assumed to be a thing. There's no tule or policy beyond ssy any other social event would - like a movie night or board game night. There us zero correlation between role in the game and current world obligations for good and drink.

Sometimes if I just I say "I am serving so-n-so in the hour before (big pot of chili or stew" or maybe " the grill is ready if.." or "there are donuts or cupcakes". Sometimes if I am visiting then I will offer to bring such if its been shown to be ok.

But, no correlation between the rpg status and food for us was established.

This is however much different from my "bring he GM cannoli to level up" rule.
 
We are all past the age of 25, so if it's night, we order food. Everyone pays their share. If it's morning, we sometimes cook. Whoever feels like cooking or picking up something does. Reimbursement is not asked for, as they are picking it up to feed the group. It works for us as we generally rotate, but it's not on a schedule.
 

Topramesk

Explorer
Usually it's the players who bring snacks at our table, particularly if the GM is the host, but it's more something that just happens than a rule.

In Against the Darkmaster, however, we explicitly (and half-jokingly) made bringing snacks part of the players' duties! :)
 

dragoner

Dying in Chargen
You make it sound like a joke, but this is a major advantage of the boardgame bar type setting as a venue.
Yes, you are right. They love us for the extra 20-30 people on a otherwise lackluster Thursday. It was the old owner that started it, having been a long time local DM, the old logo was an elf with a bow and tankard. There is also a full time game cafe called Merlin's Beard, that just moved to get more space. Another big advantage is that we are in no one's private space, no need to clean up, and not dependent on any one person to host. The downside if one is fairly reliant on props, or minis, it can be a bit of a bear hauling them in.
 

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