roguerouge said:
First of all, did you even read the moderator's post that talking about table-level issues is one of the main purposes of this site? This forum must seem VERY strange if you don't get that.
Been on this board a very long time and I understand it very well.
There is a difference between discussion of table issues, and argumentative never ending discussion because you HAVE to be right and you want to prove it to your group.
I've already been through this with someone from a past game. Every single person at the table felt one way, that he was in the wrong. And yet he chose to take it to the boards, to misrepresent the situation and plead for support. When the overwhelming majority of people backed the rest of the group, he refused to accept it, saying that "Well some people supported me, so I don't think I'm wrong". In the end, we kicked him out. Only AFTER we gave him the boot did he decide to see the error of his (angry, rude and disrespectful) ways and seek amends, but it was too late.
Now this isn't the same situation or the same person; the one in my experience was much worse and much more clearly wrong.
But that being said, if everyone in your group says X, where X = Decision about how a situation should be handled; then you're not only not going to win the argument by bringing it to a message board, you're going to injure your relationships with the other players. And if it came to The Neverending Whine about how you lost your shield and want everyone else to pay for it (disclaimer: I'm not accusing the OP of doing this to his group, just saying...), then there comes a point where I'd happily say "I don't want to hear it anymore, go play with someone else".
Put it this way: You're playing a game, any game, in a game store. A situation goes against you and you argue it with the other players at the table. You lose, and everyone else decides you're wrong. Not on a Rules ruling, but on a Group Decision basis, like this situation, which is really about recompense. How does it help you to run around the game store, complaining and seeking the support of random patrons? Are you expecting your group to change their minds because Billy-Bob Randomguy wanders over and says a few words?