Yet Another Lonely-Gamer Thread UPDATE 7-8!!!!

[Dragonbait]

Anyway, first thing is first.... PLATONIC.

Plutonic means "Of deep igneous or magmatic origin" so unless you are hoping for a relationship with her that in some indefinable manner has the qualities of basalt stone, I suspect you are talking about a Platonic relationship

Didn't the OP want a relationship like that? No? Oh. See, I used Plutonic correctly. I just misunderstood the subject matter. I'm not an idiot.

 

[LostSoul]

So aside from hanging out at local bars or the internet, I'm really tapped as to where to start meeting new people.

Sports groups. Especially mixed gender social ones.

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Ok, unrelated tangent. Where are some place to meet "new" people?

The vast majority of my friends, like me, are anti-social. I'M the most socialable out of all of them.

So you are asking us where all the anti-social people hang out together, other than the internet? Sorry, to be honest if I knew I would already be there instead of here.

 

[Tiew]

My personal opinion (having gone through a long one sided relationship.) is that the "be a man" advice is good, but you really need to combine it with Treebore's advice. It's a lot harder to be tough if you don't have things in your life that give you satisfaction outside of romantic relationships. The more fullfilling your life is the less desperate relationships are. At least that's been my experience.

 

[TheUnknownSoul]

So you are asking us where all the anti-social people hang out together, other than the internet? Sorry, to be honest if I knew I would already be there instead of here.

... boy, do I feel sheepish.

 

[Mycanid]

Hmmm ... shades of Robin Williams' jokes as the genie in Aladdin?

 

[TheUnknownSoul]

Friday update:

Spoke briefly with Kay on some matters, most not relating to this. However...

1.) Pushed back trip date. No relation to this, just a poor weekend for me.

2.) I managed (without looking too forward) to mention that perhaps it was best that we just keep things "friendly" until I sorted my life out better. Then, we can see where "we" stand then. She understood, and said if I need any help or support, she'll be there for me (awww...)

... so life is reset to status quo for the moment. However, I think I just earned my stat-bump in wisdom, so I'll be hanging back and playing cool without being too cold. If/when there is a next move, it will be on hers (much like the good-night kiss was, or the two since). If she wishes to move the relationship forward in any any capacity (bennies, actual serious dating/relationship) it will be her move.

I, on the other hand, will begin to keep a sharp eye out for other possible options. As much as I want this to work, I really can't stand here holding a candle for all time. Maybe they won't come soon, or easy. Who knows?

So, Perhaps in the future, "TheUnknownSoul" (or his alter-ego, if things go REALLY good) will let you know what happened. Until then, thanks again from the bottem of my heart. This helped me sort out a mess of horrible thoughts and feelings and got my head on straight.

Peace, love and happiness

T.U.S.

 

[TheUnknownSoul]

Hmmm ... shades of Robin Williams' jokes as the genie in Aladdin?

You better believe it!

 

[Mycanid]

God bless you sir. I hope everything works out for you as it should (although perhaps not as we always like or want, if you know what I mean). I am glad to hear some bits and pieces of calming down in the last post. Hmm ... maybe the sheep pic had something to do with it after all.... :\

 

[Pielorinho]

Her name's not TJ or Michelle, is it? Nine years ago, I was in exactly your place (well, not exactly--I was living with her ex, who was twice her age and moping around the house singing "Don't Stand So Close to Me" and glaring daggers at me). It ended poorly--and I didn't even get much good booty out of it. Afterward she moved to Michigan. If ever there was a relationship I regretted, it was that one.

But I still don't regret it, because other than a month of weepy self-pitying, it didn't really do me any damage. I got on with life.

Teflon's advice is great for the most part, but I think he's being a little melodramatic with the whole business about this situation having the potential to destroy you. It's not gonna destroy you. Even if you choose badly, and you move in with her and have sex with her and then find out that she's fallen for another guy, you'll get over it.

A question for those wiser in the ways of love: would it be a terrible idea to ask for Kay's collusion in finding some sweet young thing for tUS to date? When I started dating seriously, an ex-girlfriend whom I still carried a torch for was invaluable in giving me dating advice.

Daniel