Jester David
Hero
In that instance, yeah, you totally were NOT rude and it seems like you made a good call. The DM was rude and should have done something to make things fun for you, which is totally his job as a DM.- I told this story in the other thread and was immediately set upon with quastions on why I didn't X or Y most I will answer here.
-1998, so no cell phone no internet access, no games to play
-GM had just shy of 10 years experience running games, and still today runs games, used same rules today more or less..
-My 7th level Wizard was near a door the rogue checked for traps, said found none, then fighter opened and all 3 of us hit by a spell effect
- My character had 20% Magic Resistence, and a save, I flubbed both and my character was imprisoned per the spell.
-we were half hour into the game, and mid dungeon.
- I waited 15 minutes, I knew game would run 4-5 more hours, then asked "is there anyway my character can get out, at all" The DM confirmed it was impossible until the party finished this quest, went back and got the NPC Archmage he plays and does a quest for him.
- I was not allowed an NPC, or a monster
- The DM was strict on no meta gamming
- The DM's rules were all character creation rolls were to be infront of him, and every weapon and non weapon slot needed to be OKed...so I could not draw up my new 1st level PC until game ended (remember 4+ hours from then)
- I excused myself, went up stairs asked his mom if I could use the phone, then called my then girlfriend who I drove a few blocks picked her up and went to a movie.
- To this day the DM in question (who I don't play with but still know and his wife plays in my 5e game) still thinks it rude I left.
- After the movie when I droped my girlfriend off I used her house phone to call the game to see if anything changed (I would go back if there was anything to do) and was told my character still had no way back to play...
this story (more abridged) was one of a few, the point I was trying to make (and spelled out many times) is that there are lots of work arounds with good DMs, but at the end of the day being taken out of play with no options sucks... it was in response to other stories of people being sidelined... I even explained sitting out even an hour wouldn't be so bad, but there was 0 chance of getting to play that night.
People not only agreed with the DM that I was rude but continued to say all the things they would have done... starting with being told to pull ut a smart phone and get on internet even though the 1998 date was in orginal story.
this spin off thread has the same story repeated multi times...and people in this thread continue to say I was rude I should have sat there quitly for hours because I was being punished
Such as playing monsters or a hireling. Failing that, letting you leave with a fist bump.
I've played with some terrible DMs too. The unprepared Convention DM, the one who didn't know any of the rules, extreme railroading and unfair fights, ones who can't speak above a mumbled whisper, nausea inducing body odour, etc.
I try not to let them set the baseline of my expectations. They're outliers. Anomalies in my gaming history.
I typically game with friends. People I want to spend time with. If I or they die fun will still be had. I don't need to take death off the table for things to be fun. I play D&D with them for the same reason I play Rockband and Cards Against Humanity with them. Because I like spending time with them.
The rest of the time I play, I do so in Pathfinder Society or Adventurer's League. And DMs there are certainly not going to care about pulling their punches. The fun there is the challenge, with survival being the victory.