Tia Nadiezja
First Post
People are mixing up gender identity and gender expression.The nature v. nurture argument is still ongoing. That said, even if you're wired towards more traditionally masculine or feminine gender aspects, it is still society who is defining what is or is not a masculine or feminine gender role. If you throw out society's role in setting the boundaries for what is or isn't gender identity, then gender identity becomes meaningless as a term because there's nothing to identify with, everyone is just themselves. Which wouldn't be a wholly bad way to do things, but as we are biologically wired to categorize things for ease of information storage are unlikely to ever do that.
Gender identity is easy. When people ask you what your gender is, what feels right to say? Male? Female? Neither? Both? Different at different times? That's gender identity.
Gender expression is performance of gender - and sexual orientation, and other parts of who you are. Gender expression is where we get ideas like "butch" and "femme" from. And it can interact with gender identity in ways that are deeply unpleasant.
The main form of gender dysphoria I suffer is social - not being recognized as a woman hurts. A lot. I'm by nature very femme - I like to dress in very girly pretty cute things. I'm really glad I am so femme, because while being recognized as a woman is frequently difficult for me, it's borderline impossible in many places for butch trans women.