Thank you for changing your reply.
In the specific hypothetical you've presented, if I was asked to make a decision for D&D as a whole, I'd consider whether my preference or my friend's preference was likely to be more widely shared by the rest of the fan base, and then decide based on what I thought was best for the game as a whole. I certainly would not promote my opinion over my friend's opinion simply to stymie him and make it less likely his preference is realized at our table.
By contrast, you said:
That sounds like you're saying you would actively hope that the rules continue to prevent your friend from ever adopting an option he loves. I don't see how such a desire is compatible with considering him your friend, so I wanted to clarify whether I was understanding correctly.
I entirely agree with your last point, but I don't think the analogy you chose illustrates the relevant situation very well. Here are few analogies I think are more apt:
- Friend X hoping that their favorite team always wins and Friend Y's favorite team never wins.
- Friend X hoping Friend Y's favorite sports team is disqualified, so that Friend X's favorite team can win by default.
- Friend X hoping Friend Y's favorite show is cancelled so that they can always watch Friend X's favorite show, which airs at the same time. (Or, for a more modern audience, Friend X hoping Friend Y's favorite show is dropped from the streaming service so that they can always watch Friend X's favorite show.)
My best friend's preferences are as entitled to respect as my own are. When they happen to be mutually exclusive, I'd
want to discuss and compromise. I'm not going to hope for an outside restriction to ensure that my preference is always the one that is realized.