A flavorful thread with Sour Cream and cHIVEs : Are you hungry yet?

[Aeson]

I didn't say that. I don't know what you look like so I can't say that you're sexy. And I don't know you're personality well enough to call you distinguished (time may rectify this).

From what I do do know of you is that you are kind and supportive. Thats a hard quality to find in a man, so regardless of your look you're a different breed of fish and real catch.

you like this nautical stuff. We might be able to work with that.

Women seem to be looking for things I don't have to offer at least until they become burned out and jaded. Then they may find me more of a catch.

Thats just dumb.

I would agree. She wouldn't. She's set in her ways. I can't fault her for sticking to the teachings of her faith which frowns on marrying nonbelievers.

Perhaps you need the True Believer feat. I think it was in Complete Divine.

Other than that. . . damn, that's rough. At least you have a reason though. And it's something that isn't going to change, which gives it finality. I gotta think that's better than being rejected for some reason that you don't know. You don't know if it's something you can change, or something you should have done differently. Just "no" and no explanation.

It's not a finale answer either. One good thing about Christianity is they like conversions. I just need to see which edition my character needs to be converted to.

 

[Ginnel]

Perhaps you need the True Believer feat. I think it was in Complete Divine.

Other than that. . . damn, that's rough. At least you have a reason though. And it's something that isn't going to change, which gives it finality. I gotta think that's better than being rejected for some reason that you don't know. You don't know if it's something you can change, or something you should have done differently. Just "no" and no explanation.

Hmm I'm not so sure I would have thought of it more as an excuse than anything, if it wasn't then she would have worked on the converting instead I imagine.

No I'm not attracted to you, no I don't think of us like that, these are reasons I could get with, no because you're not of my religion? hmm I would have probably ran away before it got that far.

 

[Aeson]

I've said it before Aeson, and I'll say it again; it's her loss. If she doesn't want to be with you because of your denomination, then it's best not to dwell on it and show her what a fine upstanding man you are regardless of it.

It's not easy. She talks about being lonely. today at the gaming table when we were talking about marriage, her getting married came up. She said God hasn't sent him to her yet.

She knows my feelings on the matter and she knows mine. I've chosen not to talk about it and I won't.

I just have to deal with the ex boyfriend she hangs out with coming over. The sex talk, the huge tracks of land.

 

[Desert Hare]

you like this nautical stuff. We might be able to work with that.

I do live in Cape Elizabeth, in a house boat on the water.

I would agree. She wouldn't. She's set in her ways. I can't fault her for sticking to the teachings of her faith which frowns on marrying nonbelievers.

God loves all his children, so I'm sure if its at least a compatable faith, that her reasons are unjustified. There are some truths that are universal, you just need to be wise enough to see and understand them.

 

[hafrogman]

Hmm I'm not so sure I would have thought of it more as an excuse than anything, if it wasn't then she would have worked on the converting instead I imagine.

No I'm not attracted to you, no I don't think of us like that, these are reasons I could get with, no because you're not of my religion? hmm I would have probably ran away before it got that far.

Other than the people that come door to door, I'm not quite sure that there's much point in trying to "convert" athiests and agnostics. Because you're not really trying to convert them. You're not trying to change the object of their faith from one version of god to another, you're trying to give them faith where they have none. It's more like a retrofit.

So, if we consider what we know about the girl in question, it's that Aeson likes her. So it could be just that she knows him well enough to know that he's not going to spontaneously start believing.

It's by no means certain that this is the correct interpretation. But I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. She knows what she believes, and she knows she wants to spend her life with someone who shares her beliefs. She knows Aeson, and knows that he doesn't believe. So even if she likes him as a person, she's not interested in pursuing what she sees as an ultimately doomed relationship with him.

 

[Desert Hare]

It's by no means certain that this is the correct interpretation. But I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. She knows what she believes, and she knows she wants to spend her life with someone who shares her beliefs. She knows Aeson, and knows that he doesn't believe. So even if she likes him as a person, she's not interested in pursuing what she sees as an ultimately doomed relationship with him.

It really breaks my heart that some people thjink that religion has to trump love. God created humanity as an act of love. So really, love should come first.

 

[hafrogman]

I do live in Cape Elizabeth, in a house boat on the water.

Yeah, you're not much of a Desert Hare at all.

You're more like a boat bunny.

 

[Aeson]

Hmm I'm not so sure I would have thought of it more as an excuse than anything, if it wasn't then she would have worked on the converting instead I imagine.

No I'm not attracted to you, no I don't think of us like that, these are reasons I could get with, no because you're not of my religion? hmm I would have probably ran away before it got that far.

I'm sure that it's because she's not attracted to me. I've gone to church as recently as yesterday with a pastor that's in our gaming group. My attempts to see where I fit doesn't seem to faze her.

I do live in Cape Elizabeth, in a house boat on the water.


God loves all his children, so I'm sure if its at least a compatable faith, that her reasons are unjustified. There are some truths that are universal, you just need to be wise enough to see and understand them.

I don't know if I can find something compatible either. She's very conservative and I'm more open minded and liberal with things. She fumes at the idea of a woman leading a church but I'm ok with for example.

Other than the people that come door to door, I'm not quite sure that there's much point in trying to "convert" athiests and agnostics. Because you're not really trying to convert them. You're not trying to change the object of their faith from one version of god to another, you're trying to give them faith where they have none. It's more like a retrofit.

So, if we consider what we know about the girl in question, it's that Aeson likes her. So it could be just that she knows him well enough to know that he's not going to spontaneously start believing.

It's by no means certain that this is the correct interpretation. But I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. She knows what she believes, and she knows she wants to spend her life with someone who shares her beliefs. She knows Aeson, and knows that he doesn't believe. So even if she likes him as a person, she's not interested in pursuing what she sees as an ultimately doomed relationship with him.

I think you're on to something. I think Ginnel is also.

 

[Demongirl]

It's not easy. She talks about being lonely. today at the gaming table when we were talking about marriage, her getting married came up. She said God hasn't sent him to her yet.

I'm willing to accept the possibility of a higher power and in that that if there is one, s/he doesn't or wouldn't send people to each other. If there is a higher power and it does move in mysterious ways, than its a quirk of fate (or destiny, take your pick) that you should meet someone by accident one day and then move forward with your life, that person taking your hand in theirs and wanting to grow old with you.

I'm a firm believer that if you want love badly enough you should be responsible for making it happen, with the exception mentioned above.

 

[Aeson]

It really breaks my heart that some people thjink that religion has to trump love. God created humanity as an act of love. So really, love should come first.

This from an athiest. IIRC

Some tend to take the bible and its teaching literally. The bible tells them not to marry unbelievers.

I imagine if she were interested in me and I find my way to God on my own then perhaps she would give us being together a try. I don't think she is interested in me as anything other than a friend which is the problem I run into a lot with women.