Wow what a great post.Actually she's nuts over Orlando Bloom but she was saying the back off for Arwen. We are both rather dewy eyed
over the Aragorn and Arwen love story.
Me I am Jerry Doyle as Garibaldi B5 fan.
I agree with everything you said about marketing fantasy with elements of romance as romance novel. I have read some decent novels that got stuck in romance and I have had trouble getting friends to read them because they don't read romance.
When I was growing up I drove my mpther crazy because while I loved Gone with the Wind and old Cary Grant films I also had a thing for WW 2 movies and westerns as well as gods forbid SF.
I refuse to label myself or deny myself I read everything from hardcore SF to fantasy to gothics and romances and mysteries. I love Steel Magnolia's, LOTR and Kung Fu movies.