Wow what a great post.

Actually she's nuts over Orlando Bloom but she was saying the back off for Arwen. We are both rather dewy eyed

over the Aragorn and Arwen love story.
Me I am Jerry Doyle as Garibaldi B5 fan.
I agree with everything you said about marketing fantasy with elements of romance as romance novel. I have read some decent novels that got stuck in romance and I have had trouble getting friends to read them because they don't read romance.
When I was growing up I drove my mpther crazy because while I loved Gone with the Wind and old Cary Grant films I also had a thing for WW 2 movies and westerns as well as gods forbid SF.
I refuse to label myself or deny myself I read everything from hardcore SF to fantasy to gothics and romances and mysteries. I love Steel Magnolia's, LOTR and Kung Fu movies.