So in my brief stay here I have encountered new and strange ways of being and in many ways feel like I am not hitting home with a lot of people.
And when I decide to do marketing I will tell everyone all about that.
That will be part of the kickstarter. I am not here for marketing as much as I am community building.
If all you're doing is discussing the game you're going to sell, then you are marketing your game. If you come and knock on my door, and you say, "Look, I'm a vacuum salesman, but I'm not trying to sell you this vacuum cleaner right now. But let's talk about this vacuum cleaner, build some community around it..." nobody is going to believe you aren't trying to sell the vacuum cleaner.
You want to hit home with folks? Don't start by setting up to sell your game. You want to build community? Become part of the community. We have tons of discussions here in which folks could see how you think and if they like your style without ever mentioning this game you cannot even show us.