Agreed.I don't know how other people find games or players. Personally I use meetup.org where you can search and filter out games. There's all sorts of social media or simply Google to find them. If you're asking people you already know, using word of mouth it still doesn't matter. Either some connection will get you the right contact or it won't, the number of negatives due to playing D&D or not gaming at all is irrelevant.
You aren't randomly throwing marbles or showing up at random locations hoping to find a game. I just don't see what the issue is.
I do find it ironic that we live in the internet age where we now have instant worldwide communication possible at the touch of our fingers and thousands of different ways to form communities and groups across the entire world... and yet people still say they can't find like-minded people to play their games with.
Which to me means one of two things...
1) They aren't looking hard enough or long enough and just give up because something they wanted wasn't immediately available to them (which goes along with the whole "instant gratification" culture the internet has helped bring along).
2) Their preferences for what they need to have in a game has become so much narrower and more esoteric that they can't find enough people that share their same exact idiosyncratic desires.
You couple those two together... it's no wonder some people say they can't find games.