Dating advice tidbit-

[jester47]

So I had a nice conversation with a lovely woman last sunday. Durring the conversation I let slip that I might be a little insecure on a Messageboard that she and I both frequent. But I made a joke about it and changed the subject. Then she said:

"Oh Aaron, You're so funny!"

At the time I couldn't remember if this was good or bad. It took me three days to remember. I finally remember!

Guys if you hear this, its a warning shot. It means that what you just said can be interpreted that you are insecure but she is letting it go. Its a warning. Its saying "What you just said makes you sound insecure but I am interpreting it as a joke." It also can be a nice way of saying "your joke really wasn't funny, but I like you so I am overlooking it."

After rereading the post in quesiton I realised that it was well thought out and I had nothing to worry about.

But I thought I would share this valuable information with the fellers here at ENWorld.
(sorry gals but guys don't say that!)

Aaron.

 

[BiggusGeekus]

Oh, jester47! You're so funny!


(couldn't resist!)

 

[reveal]

Ooooorrrrr.... It could be you're reading way much into it.

Seriously though, she could've just been complimenting you. I like to make people laugh and people have told me I'm funny. I never stop to think if there's some deeper meaning to it. I just take it as a compliment.

 

[jester47]

Well there is general laughter and "thats really funny." or "you make me laugh"

But almost every guy has heard the sing song "you're so funny." Its this varient that I am talking about. Ussually it is some phrase that sounds different than when she just laughs. This comment ussually follows what is typically a thinly veiled self depricating comment.
And it never sounds genuine.

When a girl does this she is trying to keep you from going down that path.
In my case it was all good cause I caught myself and turned it into a joke. She still made the comment, and then I turned the situation around by getting her phone number.

Just sayin guys, its a warning sign that you are damaging your chances.

Aaron.

 

[jester47]

Oh, jester47! You're so funny!


(couldn't resist!)

Awesome!

 

[Turanil]

I turned the situation around by getting her phone number.

Hum, lets wait for a few days, and you should be able to turn this story into "Yet Another Women Venting Thread".

 

[der_kluge]

Wait a minute... so are you saying that you're actually making a headway into understanding women?

I call shenanigans.

 

[jester47]

Turanil, first we need someone that actually wants to vent their frustrations. I had hoped it would actually be the opposite of a venting thread, more a how to than a why me.

A.

 

[jester47]

The Van Halen Principle - Humor

So you are gonna approach the girl and ask for her home phone number- everything is riding on your confidence and attitude. You need to approach like you cannot be hurt. When you have the number, walk away. Its over until a week later when you call. If she rejects you, walk away its over.

Here is where Van Halen comes in. Make a CD with the following songs:

Eruption
you really Got Me
Panama
Unchained
Hot For Teacher
Ain't Talkin Bout Love
Jump
Beautiful Girls
Everybody Wants Some!!
Best of Both Worlds*
Runaround*
Poundcake*
Right Now*
Top of the World*

*These are the only permitted Hagar songs. Most of the hagar stuff is far too sappy for confidence building/recovery

What this CD does is it put you in the right frame of mind. What frame of mind is this? Its the frame of mind that brings out your confidence and laid back attitude. Both are needed to ask the question with any hope of sucess, the second to deal with rejections and to retain the ability to leave if there is yes (besides if it a yes, what better music to listen to after a girl said yes). If you listen to David Lee Roth, thats the attitude he infuses into most every song he does. Sammy is a great singer, but there is a little too much hurt in many of the songs he did. Listen to it on the way to the event, listen to it going away.

This is largely for ammusment, but hey it couldn't hurt.

 

[Dingleberry]

The Van Halen Principle

You, sir, are a genius.

I'm certain we could develop a similar Aerosmith Principle.