Chimera said:
One of the problems with the Twin Cities (Minneapolis/St. Paul), and I wouldn't at all be surprised if it is similar in other parts of the country, is that it is the Land of 10,000 Cliques. It's really difficult to get to know people. People who move here from other areas often have trouble finding regular friends, let alone gaming friends.
This is probably very true in many places.
IMO, the Twin Cities has a large and healthy gaming scene. I've had no trouble finding many gamers in the past 5 years since moving here. There is also a very large, very well-run game store (The Source) and dozens of smaller stores. One of our local chains, Shinders, has a good selection of gaming materials as well.
Universities are always higher concentrations of gaming, and provide excellent sources for contacting new gamers.
The ideal gaming environment, IMO, is a mid-sized university town, particularly if you are or can be a student and/or join student gaming groups. Ames, IA, for example, has a very good, very active gaming club (AMESFA) and lots of good gamers. Their game store is also first-rate.
I found gaming a little more difficult in Richmond, VA, but they are there if you know where to look. Nearby Charlottesville, VA, has a similar univeristy-feel to it, as well as at least one gaming company (Iron Crown Enterprises). There are opportunities out there.
You really just need to go look and be willing to meet some new people. Take a chance. In my experience, about half of them will be weird (read: too weird, or incompatible gamers) so you also need to be able to say "no thanks", but the rest will be ok, and you'll be able to get a group together, and some will turn out to be the best friends you'll ever have.
Ozmar the Idealist