Swarmkeeper
Hero
Here here.
The cure: "just tell me what your character is doing and what they are trying to accomplish".
Maybe you misread what I'm saying. If someone starts pressing buttons on a character sheet or doing a "can I role [X]", I just go back to the basics of the play loop in the PHB - particularly Part 2: The players describe what they want to do. And that means describe what your character is doing in-world.Nah, man. It's really annoying when I say something like "I would love to have an official option for a more lethal game" or "It would be nice if we had an official variant for limited cantrips" and people are like: "Yeah, just take this third party book or houserule it yourself".
Yes, I am well aware that I can do whatever in my own game, but believe it or not, some groups do care for what's considered official or not. Guess we are just weird...