does a nice, shy, meek guy have a chance in hell?

[Rel]

but if youve never actually had a use for a condom, and dont have a need for one in the forseeable future, it isnt quite so nice.

Repeat after me, Aaron: "The glass is half FULL."

 

[Xath]

but if youve never actually had a use for a condom, and dont have a need for one in the forseeable future, it isnt quite so nice.

That's the outlook that gives you serious negatives to your "lay-a-tude" factor. You should have picked up the condom, waved it, and asked them if they wanted to help you or if that was an offer. It wouldn't have gotten you in bed with them, but it would help them see that you aren't a door mat.

[cliche]People do not have sex with door mats. They walk all over them. [/cliche]

 

[Desdichado]

Lay-a-tude factor. I like that.

 

[reveal]

Repeat after me, Aaron: "The glass is half FULL."

The "half full" attitude really doesn't help when it relates to condoms.

 

[Rel]

The "half full" attitude really doesn't help when it relates to condoms.

You're so funny, reveal.

 

[reveal]

but if youve never actually had a use for a condom, and dont have a need for one in the forseeable future, it isnt quite so nice.

Here's a great line from some comedian:

I was in the shopping mall and there was this UPS guy with a cart full of condom boxes. He was delivering to a store and he was really embarassed about it. I wish I was that guy. I would've acted like I was in a hurry, telling people "Out of the way, people, I got a big weekend coming up. Places to go, people to do. Move it!"

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

I'm probably gonna get bashed, but I can take it. Why is it every one of these threads turns into a "oh po' pitiful me" discussion? You don't like yourself; get off your ass and change it. You want a girlfriend, get off your ass and go get one. You think you're depressed; get off your ass and get help.

Look, I'm 42 years old. I weigh over 350 pounds. I have limp that may be permanent after a really bad accident I had 10 months ago. After 15 years, I'm getting divorced. I have a job that pays just enough to get by on with little chance for advancement. But ya know what? Every day above ground is a good day. Live your life, don't wait for someone to live it for you, and don't live your life for someone else.

There are women out there for everyone. I'm not even considering dating yet, but at the urging of some friends, I posted a Yahoo personal just to see what women my age are doing and are looking for. I've had six... yes SIX hits so far, and have made friendly connections with a couple of women already, w/out even meeting face to face yet. One of them is even a gamer who works in the industry. I told her I wasn't really ready to date, but it's always good to make a new friend who shares a hobby, and she's cool with that.

So get up, get out, get busy. You are (or should be) in control of your own destiny. In short, get off your ass.

 

[Old Fezziwig]

They are doing so because a certain segment of the male population has adopted the notion that a *honk*, a "wolf whistle" or a hearty "Yo BAY BEEE!" constitute valid pickup lines.

[hijack]One girl I dated used to walk two miles into school and told me that the catcalls from passing cars changed with the seasons — like, around Halloween/Thanksgiving, people started yelling "Hey, PUMPKIN!" This just reminded me of that.[/hijack]

 

[Desdichado]

The "half full" attitude really doesn't help when it relates to condoms.

My understanding is that some guy's loads won't actually fill a condom up.

 

[Aaron L]

oh bash all you want. i just dont really care anymore. the thread was a mistake i made when i was drunk, and i would have deleted it if i could have before anyone saw it. im not looking for sympathy, or even advice, ive given up and im just watching people make jokes back and forth now. not healthy, not manly, certainly pathetic, but a lot easier and less painful. ive managed to numb myself in teh past and im just working on it again. i had a brief (well a year long) moment of foolishness that i think ive been forced past, so i should be able to get back to normal now and stop caring again.