does a nice, shy, meek guy have a chance in hell?

[reveal]

oh bash all you want. i just dont really care anymore. the thread was a mistake i made when i was drunk, and i would have deleted it if i could have before anyone saw it. im not looking for sympathy, or even advice, ive given up and im just watching people make jokes back and forth now. not healthy, not manly, certainly pathetic, but a lot easier and less painful. ive managed to numb myself in teh past and im just working on it again. i had a brief (well a year long) moment of foolishness that i think ive been forced past, so i should be able to get back to normal now and stop caring again.

If you didn't want sympathy or advice, you should've stop posting after you admitting you were drunk. Now you just look like an attention whore who says "I wasn't serious" after being told to shut up, stop whining, and actually try to talk to people.

 

[Kanegrundar]

oh bash all you want. i just dont really care anymore. the thread was a mistake i made when i was drunk, and i would have deleted it if i could have before anyone saw it. im not looking for sympathy, or even advice, ive given up and im just watching people make jokes back and forth now. not healthy, not manly, certainly pathetic, but a lot easier and less painful. ive managed to numb myself in teh past and im just working on it again. i had a brief (well a year long) moment of foolishness that i think ive been forced past, so i should be able to get back to normal now and stop caring again.

It's your life. Do with it what you wish. The long and short of it is that only you can really make a happy change in your life. YOu can either pretend not to care, which is honestly the way it is when people claim to just not care anymore, or you can effing change it. It takes strength, it takes faith in yourself, and it takes some courage, but you have to ask yourself is pretending not to care about being unhappy worth being unhappy?

Like I said though, it's your life. Good luck with whatever decision you make, since if you decide to wallow then you'll need it. Not trying to be overly harsh, but that's just the way it is.

 

[Desdichado]

oh bash all you want. i just dont really care anymore. the thread was a mistake i made when i was drunk, and i would have deleted it if i could have before anyone saw it. im not looking for sympathy, or even advice, ive given up and im just watching people make jokes back and forth now. not healthy, not manly, certainly pathetic, but a lot easier and less painful. ive managed to numb myself in teh past and im just working on it again. i had a brief (well a year long) moment of foolishness that i think ive been forced past, so i should be able to get back to normal now and stop caring again.

So, you're gonna ignore all the genuinely good advice here and turn back to your self-pity? Nice. :\

 

[Dark Jezter]

oh bash all you want. i just dont really care anymore. the thread was a mistake i made when i was drunk, and i would have deleted it if i could have before anyone saw it. im not looking for sympathy, or even advice, ive given up and im just watching people make jokes back and forth now. not healthy, not manly, certainly pathetic, but a lot easier and less painful. ive managed to numb myself in teh past and im just working on it again. i had a brief (well a year long) moment of foolishness that i think ive been forced past, so i should be able to get back to normal now and stop caring again.

Aaron, nobody here is bashing you. Some of the advice has been very blunt, but that's because a lot of the posters here believe that coddling you and pussyfooting around the issue around isn't going to help your situation any.

The fact that this thread has gotten so many responses should show you that people here like having you around and really want to help you improve your situation. I know that you're embarrased right now, but I can assure that myself (and I'm sure most or all of the other posters here) don't think less of you than we did prior to this thread. You're a pretty cool guy, and we want to help you make your life better.

I also know that it's easier to give advice than it is to actually follow it. Making major changes to your lifestyle is always hard. Humans are creatures of habit, after all, and we don't like to leave our comfort zone. If you can commit yourself to improving your life, however, you will not regret it. I've seen it happen to other guys in situations similar to yours, and there's no reason why it can't happen to you.

But if you're going to ignore all of the (mostly good) advice that people have given you and sink into a pit of apathy and despair, then you have nobody to blame for your situation but yourself. Not your geographical location, not the cruel universe, only yourself.

 

[Wulf Ratbane]

I'm long out of the "picking up chicks" game and try to focus my efforts on getting laid around the house.

Not enough guys quoting THAT for truth.

But it is.

 

[Aaron L]

yeah, was just being snippy, i apologize. i didnt mean it, im sorry. bad mood and everything, and it even came across worse than i had intended. i really just meant that if he wanted to bashme to go ahead, i dont care about people bashing me at this point because ive already invited it on myself. i didnt mean to imply that i wasnt getting good advice and helpful stuff from everyone, because i am and just the fact that people are concerned makes me feel really good. im really sorry if i offended all you guys.

but i was serious about sitting back and watching the jokes. rel and reveal and josh and everyone are always real funny

and im really sorry i didnt mean to seem ingrateful or like an attention whore or anything.

 

[Kanegrundar]

But if you're going to ignore all of the (mostly good) advice that people have given you and sink into a pit of apathy and despair, then you have nobody to blame for your situation but yourself. Not your geographical location, not the cruel universe, only yourself.

Quoted for truth.

 

[Aaron L]

oh i already know i have no one to blame but myself, ive been trying to say that all and along im sorry if i made it seem like i was trying to blame anything else. all the bad things in my life ive brought on myself in one way or another (well, maybe not the medical conditions) and i dont want to be someone that tries to blame all thier woes on everyone but themselves. im fully responsible for my own doom, as it were. but now i really am getting embarrassed so ill just shut up now.

 

[Kanegrundar]

You're also responsible for you own salvation. Like Rel said, the glass is half full.

 

[The Shaman]

The walks arent always much fun. Within the last 2 months Ive had:

• A car full of girls drive past me, yell "get a life" and throw a condom out the window at me.
• someone yell "hey ugly" at me yes it was at me, thee was no one else around and they lauhed when i sped up and ran past)
• someone threw a full plasic cup of soda pop at me from moving van. i got soaked, and it was pretty cold out.

Dude, that has nothing to do with you - that's just life in western Pennsylvania...

Before my lower back turned to linguini, I used to bicycle pretty much everywhere. I have had everything from sodas to dirty diapers thrown at me, had someone try to hit me with their car door, and had someone try to run me over - and I can't even begin to tell you the depth and breadth of expletives and other insults yelled at me as I'm just riding along.

Sad but true: many people are gobshites, and cars make gobshites into mega-gobshites.

This is the universe's way of letting you know who belongs in the gene pool and who doesn't - don't take it personally.

The Punisher called. He wants his belt buckle back.

Priceless.