Expectations/gamer courtesy

[kenobi65]

We are pretty much frineds first and sharing is nota big issue.

That seems to be a recurring theme in these responses.

If your group are friends outside of the game (or, get along well enough that you *could* be friends outside of the game), then this doesn't seem to be much of an issue.

If you're in a group that doesn't "exist" outside of gaming (such as a group you recruited via a message board), it may be an issue, and it's something that probably should be addessed when the group starts playing together, just because there *are* humans out there who are oblivous to unwritten rules of etiquette and courtesy.

 

[blargney the second]

One thing I learned from Green Ronin's Advanced Gamemaster's Guide: You get more of what you reward. We modified our XP system to include rewarding XP for bringing a snack.

-blarg

 

[trancejeremy]

Someone who is hosting a game is already doing the rest of the people a favor; they shouldn't be obligated to furnish drinks/snacks as well.

You should probably bring snacks, but it depends on the host. Some snacks can be awfully messy/smelly. And it doesn't really cost much to bring a 2 liter of soda. Under a buck

 

[cignus_pfaccari]

With my group, we do both. People bring stuff to share, or for themselves. It depends.

For example, my Mello Yello is mine. Not that I fear anyone taking it, but it's not going to anyone else, 'cause it's hard to find and my favorite drink. However, I occasionally bring over a case of Coke Zero that is open for mass consumption.

One guy will often bring his own food to fix, but other times go out with us to dinner.

Snacks are typically shared as much as possible. Of course, people could buy stuff I wouldn't eat and thus not have to share, but hey.

Brad

 

[farscapesg1]

Well, our DM used to provide lunch all the time, but I think I've broke him of the habit I just don't feel like he should be providing lunch and snacks every game session when he is already providing the house to play at and his DM'ing skills.

At one point I tried to get the rest of the group to all take turns bringing lunch for the group. That didn't work for reasons that others have posted (personal tastes, dietary issues, and most importantly money). Now it alternates between the DM providing food or us ordering food (usually pizza ). I almost always bring a couple 2 liters of soda and some chips/cookies/etc. for snacks, as do a couple of other people.

As for the books, I don't understand it, but we have the same problem. I think two of our players don't own a 3.5 PHB (which we are playing), though they seem to own every Forgotten Realms book published (which we aren't playing and do not use).

 

[Severion]

My wife is one of my players, we also have a married couple, and two other married individuals, (plus one random nephew). Game night is potluck night.

 

[d20Dwarf]

So it's not an unspoken rule as I had thought...

Unspoken rules are what get you in trouble with your girlfriend. Among men, let all things be said!

 

[Teflon Billy]

Is it common courtesy to bring supplies/snacks when you game? (friendly gaming at a DM's house, not tournament or game-store play with strangers or anything like that.)

Yes, but "Common" Courtesy is pretty damn rare.

 

[EdL]

For the food issue, I think you ought to have little or nothing on hand for your next game. When someone mentions it, you reply: "Oh yeah. Guess someone'll have to make a snack run. So everyone who wants something, chip in." That way you just seem to have forgotten to have picked anything up and everyone gets to decide if they want to chip in or not. Then you suggest that maybe you all ought to do something similar every week. See what happens.

As for no books/dice? Ok, some people forget, but none? That's just crazy, as someone else said.

 

[Harmon]

Its annoying to have people show up and expect to be fed or to expect you to have sodas, food, snacks, books, dice, etc for them to use. Actually its down right rude.

Our group is fairly cool about it now- everyone brings soda, the books they know they are going to use, and everyone has their own dice. We throw in for pizza, or bring their own for the BBQ, once in a while I will buy the group dinner (more now then in the past). Snacks are shared and repaid the following week.

If you have moochers, tell them they are bing rude. If you expect others to pay your way- you need more reality, get out of your parents basement, get a job, and buy your own.