Gamer Love Life

Crothian · Jun 6, 2004

Buttercup said:
And most gamer guys are?

Only the ones from EN World

Turanil · Jun 6, 2004

When I stopped playing with my former group, I think she wanted to know what the big deal was, so I tried to explain the concept of DND to her. Now we have a solo-campaign going on where she is a Half-Elf 3 Monk/1 Sorceress. I consider myself a very zealous gamer, but I am always surprised at how enthusiastic she is when asks if we can play.

This reminds me of when I was married (a long time ago), and introduced my wife to gaming. I went for a solo adventure in order to explain her the rules. As she played a sorceress, I had a paladin npc accompany her. Of course, my intent was to protect the sorceress during a fight, but she understood that differently. Thus, we only played for less than 30 minutes, as she wouldn't understand what's the real purpose of a paladin! (i.e.: to slay orcs and the like). Since, as the DM I had to play the paladin npc, we quickly ended... in bed. (of course I allowed my paladin to do that only because we were married in real life... ahaem...

).

However, as I am now celibate, and real life work tends to rob me of gaming time, I prefer to remain alone, heck! I have gaming projects to finish!

RangerWickett · Jun 6, 2004

In terms of female relationships, I think the most important thing is that you are really good friends.

Of course, big breasts don't hurt, either.

Well, then I'm outta luck. I don't have breasts at all!

Me, I would love a relationship, but about six months ago I gave up on the rampant desire to find someone. I had to accept that my approach, however I was going about it, wasn't working, and none of the dozen or so women that I'd been attracted to had shown any interest back. So now I have a lot more female friends, but no date.

And I'm cool with that. I have my friends, and I still make sure to go to social occasions to get to know people. I'm content to be able to write for pleasure (and a small amount of money) and not be starving. My friends and I enjoy gaming together, except for a highly unfortunate incident last night where I cussed out the GM because she hadn't let me do anything for eight hours of gaming. I'm happy with life.

I do like to think of myself as a romantic, albeit one somewhat spoiled by having dated a woman who really enjoyed physical intimacy. But I watch TV, see my friends, and heck, see my friends' D&D characters having loving relationships, and I feel just a little sad.

I'm groovy, though. I've got my writing, and people who let me borrow their dice. And, a few weeks ago,when I graduated from college and had to send my new contact information to people, I had about twenty-five people on the list. It's not a huge number of people, but I'm glad to know all of them.

Just wish one of them thought I was cute. *sniff*

Dirigible · Jun 6, 2004

Now, as long as I can get a girl who'll put up with a severe Anglophile

Possibly an English girl? Then you'd both be happy.

...one somewhat spoiled by having dated a woman who really enjoyed physical intimacy.

You have a funny definition of spoiled (wait, did you mean spoiled as in overwhelmed by treats, or as in ruined?)

Remember: Personal relationships are easier if you secretly hate everyone!

RangerWickett · Jun 6, 2004

Dirigible said:
You have a funny definition of spoiled (wait, did you mean spoiled as in overwhelmed by treats, or as in ruined?)

Both. I was overwhelmed by treats, and thus ruined. For a couple of years, it was perfectly acceptable for me to have sex on the brain, because my partner did too. It's much easier to adore 'Woman' as a pseudo-chivalric romantic ideal if you're only writing poetry about something you've heard about. Practical experience in the subject (and, at the risk of being crude, dare I say lots of it) makes it hard for me to entirely separate sex and love.

I notice that I never see gaming women complaining about being starved for affection. Funny, that.

LightPhoenix · Jun 7, 2004

You know, now that I'm single, this is one of those things I worry about. I mean, I keep my gaming stuff on my bookshelf in plain site, I don't have a problem talking about it... I guess if nothing else it's a real litmus test. Compounding the problem is that my ex-gf didn't care that I liked RPGs... she wasn't interested in them herself, and she'd make the occassional joke about it, but never in a malicious way.

I'd like to add a hearty bleh to dating in general though.

Andrew D. Gable · Jun 7, 2004

Dirigible said:
Possibly an English girl? Then you'd both be happy.

We're on the same page, I see. When I go to London either this summer or next, I hope to meet a nice girl from Islington.

Hida Bukkorosu · Jun 7, 2004

i want a chick who's:

cute (appeals to my physical attraction tastes)
a gamer (i need to be able to share the thing that defines who i am with her)
a carnivore(when eating meals at home, i don't want to have to eat vegetarian stuff)
enthusiastic about physical intimacy and wants to engage in it as much as possible
not religious, preferably ex-religious (so she can understand and relate to my issues and experiences with religion)
shares my opinions regarding institutionalized education in case we have any kids

those are the absolute must haves for me to even consider becoming involved in an exclusive committed relationship with someone.

RangerWickett · Jun 8, 2004

Hida Bukkorosu said:
i want a chick who's:

cute (appeals to my physical attraction tastes)

a gamer (i need to be able to share the thing that defines who i am with her)

a carnivore(when eating meals at home, i don't want to have to eat vegetarian stuff)

enthusiastic about physical intimacy and wants to engage in it as much as possible

not religious, preferably ex-religious (so she can understand and relate to my issues and experiences with religion)

shares my opinions regarding institutionalized education in case we have any kids

those are the absolute must haves for me to even consider becoming involved in an exclusive committed relationship with someone.

I'd suggest you take off Gamer and Carnivore. The others are very important for how you relate to each other, but Gamer only applies to how you relate to your friends, and Carnivore only applies to how you relate to food. Both do factor into a relationship, but the most important part is how you get along with your partner. It's alright to not share exactly the same interests.