Gay men or women who play D&D

[Nightfall]

Joseph Carriker of S&SS fame is Gay and he's both a writer and editor. Plus he's a great guy all around.

 

[Duncan Haldane]

All I wanna know is what I said earlier. Do you feel the need to abide by a set of core values and "life-pathways" that reflect an attempt to conform for more acceptance by the wider community ,you know, as if your only allowed so much non conformity and you have to make up for it in other ways. Or do you feel really liberated to actually do anything you want. Im not concerned with your actual choices, rather I am concerned with whether you feel pressure to do it.

Hmm, interesting question.

I started roleplaying when I was twelve. I came out when I was 20. So I'd been roleplaying for a long time before I accepted I was gay.

I have always been an outsider. I was constantly picked on at school (first because I was sick a lot, and then because of being a nerd). Roleplaying was something I did with my nerd friends, which allowed me to escape some of my life.

Perhaps roleplaying was something which allowed me to ignore my sexuality for a longer time. I'm not really sure.

I attend a lot of roleplaying conventions, and know a lot of people through that. Almost all my friends are roleplayers. I don't feel like I fitted in at work, and didn't socialise with workmates outside of the office. I wasn't out at work, so my sexuality had nothing to do with it.

I think, all up, I'm just someone who doesn't fit a lot of social expectations. Too much of a nerd, I guess. My sexuality and my hobbies don't seem to have a lot to do with it.

Now I just need to find myself a nice gay nerd gamer

hope this helps,

Duncan

 

[alsih2o]

in college i knew a gay gamer who was very out about his sexuality, but dreadfully afraid someone would find out he was a gamer....but i think that had more to do with his possible conquests thinking it wasn't to sexy.

he was very much the playboy, and hid his affection for math and gaming in order to up his odds with the kind of men he liked.

strangely enuf, he was a theter major, but thought that gaming was nerdy, too many overlaps there for me to understand.

odd again was the fact that he was a rather inspired actor, but a bit of a dullard at roleplaying

 

[Samnell]

Well all I wanna know is what I said earlier. Do you feel the need to choose to a set of core values and "life-pathways" that reflect an attempt to conform for more acceptance. You know, as if your only allowed so much non conformity and you have to make up for it in other ways. Or do you feel really liberated to actually do anything you want. Im not concerned with your actual choices, rather I ma concerned with whether you feel pressure to do it.

Yes and no. I'm not the most forthcoming person in the world with my sexuality or my gaming, but all my friends know. There was an uncomfortable period where I wasn't sure if I should tell my gamer friends (who I've met relatively recently). I finally did so when after a near TPK I was the only person at the table with a PC who's gender matched my own.

They didn't care, fortunately, but I had wondered what kind of response I could expect. We're all strange in our own ways, but was my particular way going to cause problems?

It wasn't an overt thing. Nothing along the lines of "you must be straight or else" vibes coming at me. But even amongst gamers I was wondering how much leeway I was allowed.

In wider society I tend to keep quiet. I live in a relatively conservative small town and I'm not too hot on the idea of drawing attention to myself. I don't know what would happen if I did. I don't go out of my way to appear normal (I dress kind of preppy but that's just my tastes) but there's always a calculation. Is it going to be ok to tell this person? Could it cause me problems if I do?

I don't feel compelled that I must conform so much as I'm aware of possible negative consequences if I don't. Not drawing attention to it does allow me a sort of middle ground. If there's a gay scene here I'd be amazed and regardless I'm not active in it. I don't know of any gay advocacy groups active around here either that I might be inclined to participate in. I'm sort of under the radar.

I do have a certain advantage, though. You can't tell a person's gay by looking at them...unless they're wearing a t-shirt that advertises it or something. You can't tell if a person's a gamer either. It's normally pretty easy to coexist.

Is that what you wanted?

 

[BeholderBurger]

Thanks for everyone whos posting.

I cant keep up, my wrist is hurting.

My eSsay is gonna bE sooo good i might EveN Get An A grade

Woohoo.....

I want you all to go to bed tonight thinking about those poor disabled chinese kids forced to take up trainspotting.

 

[BeholderBurger]

Bump...

Get lost fiend folio...Your days are numbered....

 

[Angelsboi]

Im here finally. I broke up with my boyfriend and ... anyways ...

I game with a group and two of us are gay. My ex used to game and so did my previous ex. Well two ex's after tonights. Does that make sense?

And yes, im still the official represenative, thanks to Teflon Billy.

Anymore questions?

 

[mirzabah]

odd again was the fact that he was a rather inspired actor, but a bit of a dullard at roleplaying

Not really that odd, roleplaying is not the same thing as acting. To quote an essay I once read, a roleplayer on stage is a poor actor and an actor in a roleplaying game is a bloody nuisance.

 

[Maxboy]

Well Being a young Gay gamer (and DM) can be quite difficult at times ,especially when you have a Homophobic person in the group of players.

But Iam pretty lucky to have a supportive group mostly


BTW: i wonder if Gay Rpgers play Gay characters in there games?

I have never played a gay character in DND



Cheers

 

[Samnell]

BTW: i wonder if Gay Rpgers play Gay characters in there games?

I do. When my PCs aren't explicitly asexual (which a few have been for background reasons) and don't have any compelling reason to be straight they're invariably gay. It hasn't yet made any more differance than a straight gamer's PCs being straight, though.

Except for one introduction to the group that took place in a brothel, it's never come up.