Gencon Couples, Help me!

[ruaalien2]

I believe that's been stated - it's a matter (I would think) of general priorities, rather than a specific issue. You seem pretty mature about the whole thing - and so I would expect no less. Whatever you decide to do will be fine, I'm sure - I just think that if money's as tight for you guys as you have already implied, even just HIM going displays some seriously wacked out priorities.

The way he looks at it is that it's Gen Con, something he looks foward to going to all year, and if there is any way that he can afford it, he is going to go.

 

[Orblivia]

Won't happen. He has already told me that if I told him there was no way he would go, he would still go even if that means giving up some of the last two weeks we have before I leave.

Well Caryn, that alone would be very telling to me.

Remember have fun at University and sacrifice nothing.

 

[ruaalien2]

Well Caryn, that alone would be very telling to me.

Remember have fun at University and sacrifice nothing.

I think that fact that he doesn't seem happy about it is enough for me right now. I think as it gets closer and he hasto make a final decision, a lot of it will depend on if I decide to go for Fri-Sun or not.

 

[Teflon Billy]

Won't happen. He has already told me that if I told him there was no way he would go, he would still go even if that means giving up some of the last two weeks we have before I leave.

That's bent. :\

 

[Buttercup]

I see this as very selfish, personally. I'm sorry, but I do. It's a convention. There'll be another one coming up soon, and you may even be able to afford the next one. I would never put a convention above my SO. There's no way I would be "miserable" if I chose to spend time with a SO rather than go to a convention, even if it meant missing a favorite author who will never be at another convention, or some such.

Quoted for truth. Arthur, your priorities are not what they should be.

 

[Buttercup]

Won't happen. He has already told me that if I told him there was no way he would go, he would still go even if that means giving up some of the last two weeks we have before I leave.

Honey, every woman deserves better than this.

 

[ruaalien2]

Honey, every woman deserves better than this.

He is torn about it I know. He looks foward to Gen Con all year, and he doesn't understand why I just don't give him the best of both worlds: me at Gen Con.

If I decide not to go for whatever reason, and he decides to go, I might not be happy, but I'll understand. I know how much Gen Con means to him.

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

His priorities are askew. Plain and simple. When you pare this down to the barest framework, he's placing an object above your relationship. And if you go along with him to GC and it not being something you really want to do, you are condoning it.

This boy needs to grow up or get out. I love gaming, but I NEVER place it ahead of family or friends. I don't know either of you, but from what I've read here, he's being very selfish.

Just my observation and opinion. You do what you think you need to.

 

[ruaalien2]

....Arthur orignally posted his post so I can see that if I did go with him that I wouldn't be bored out of my mind, in fact that I might even enjoy myself, and if I needed a few hours away that there would be something for me to do.

Many of you responded and helped out with ideas and suggestions, and made me really consider going, while before I was like "no way". However, a lot of you have also said his prorites are wrong, and he should place me above going to Gen Con. While I can understand the reason behind that response, that wasn't what this thread was supposed to be about.

The fact that he loves me is not a question, and never has been. He had done, and will continue to do, anything he can to make me happy. However, this is one of those times that as much as he would love to make me happy, Gen Con means a lot to him, and I knew this back when we started dating last year, and the closer it got to Gen Con last year, the more I was able to understand what it meant to him. When Gen Con So Cal past, I saw how uhappy he was that he wasn't there because he couldn't afford it, and I know it will be the same, if not worse, if he doesn't go to Gen Con Indy. It's something he looks foward to all year.

Ever since he started at this job, he has been talking about Gen Con and putting money away towards it. It's not fair for me to be selfish and tell him to stay home, as much as I would like to at times. I want him to go to Gen Con because I know how much he enjoys it and looks foward to it. There is a chance that I might come for Friday-Sunday, which will make both of us happy, because he will have Gen Con and me, and there are a few things that seem intresting, and there are other things to do in Indy (minor league baseball, for one).

Thank you all that helped us and gave us both suggestions, and to those who only commented on his prorities or that he shouldn't go, thank you, but please, this is not what this thread was meant to be. As hard as it may be for some of you to understand, I understand what Gen Con means to him, and I know he he does decide to go and I choose to stay home, it's not that he doesn't love me, or that he is choosing Gen Con ahead of me. I will just use that for a girls weekend before I leave, if that is the case. I would never tell him not to go, or hold him back from something that is important to him, and I know he feels the same about holding me back from things that are important to me. I can sacrifice some of my happiness if it means that he is doing something that means so much to him.

 

[BrooklynKnight]

....Arthur orignally posted his post so I can see that if I did go with him that I wouldn't be bored out of my mind, in fact that I might even enjoy myself, and if I needed a few hours away that there would be something for me to do.

Many of you responded and helped out with ideas and suggestions, and made me really consider going, while before I was like "no way". However, a lot of you have also said his prorites are wrong, and he should place me above going to Gen Con. While I can understand the reason behind that response, that wasn't what this thread was supposed to be about.

The fact that he loves me is not a question, and never has been. He had done, and will continue to do, anything he can to make me happy. However, this is one of those times that as much as he would love to make me happy, Gen Con means a lot to him, and I knew this back when we started dating last year, and the closer it got to Gen Con last year, the more I was able to understand what it meant to him. When Gen Con So Cal past, I saw how uhappy he was that he wasn't there because he couldn't afford it, and I know it will be the same, if not worse, if he doesn't go to Gen Con Indy. It's something he looks foward to all year.

Ever since he started at this job, he has been talking about Gen Con and putting money away towards it. It's not fair for me to be selfish and tell him to stay home, as much as I would like to at times. I want him to go to Gen Con because I know how much he enjoys it and looks foward to it. There is a chance that I might come for Friday-Sunday, which will make both of us happy, because he will have Gen Con and me, and there are a few things that seem intresting, and there are other things to do in Indy (minor league baseball, for one).

Thank you all that helped us and gave us both suggestions, and to those who only commented on his prorities or that he shouldn't go, thank you, but please, this is not what this thread was meant to be. As hard as it may be for some of you to understand, I understand what Gen Con means to him, and I know he he does decide to go and I choose to stay home, it's not that he doesn't love me, or that he is choosing Gen Con ahead of me. I will just use that for a girls weekend before I leave, if that is the case. I would never tell him not to go, or hold him back from something that is important to him, and I know he feels the same about holding me back from things that are important to me. I can sacrifice some of my happiness if it means that he is doing something that means so much to him.

Grrrrrrr this is why I love you so much :-D.