If we didn’t play when someone couldn’t make it we would hardly get to play at all. Busy lives have more important things in them than D&D!
Jobs, family, etc. sure--- but otherwise it ranks up there with any other hobby. Either it is important to you to play or it isn't. No more or less than that. But many people who have work, family, kids, etc. manage to play D&D still.
Anyway, I never said anything baout not playing when someone didn't show up. Just if they can't make it regularly, either special circumstance have to come into play or, baring that, they shouldn't bother if "busy lives" gets in their way IMO.
Ideally, absent players have their characters benched, but if the narrative can’t support that someone else plays the character, which is why it helps if they start the session fully rested.
Sure. One of my players recently had COVID, got over it, but ended up with bronchotis (?) due to it. So, a different player just played two characters so we kept the PC in the game. Benching wasn't really much of an option.
But again, this is a special circumstance. If missing the game was a regular thing, I'd only invite them to handle a DM PC, NPCs, or roll/handle the opponents.
At actually does have a lot to do with it.
Original D&D as guy gets originally designed it had simple characters so that any people can show up at any time with any character travel to a dungeon, run a dungeon, and travel back to town.
5th edition is not that. Cactus are not dumb simple.
You got hit points, hit die, spell slots, item charges potions, class features that run on short rest, class features that run on long rest, subclass features that run on long rest, subclass features that run on short rest, free spells, racial features, feets that have resources, And even gp for some people.
So if you're in a group that misses two sessions and now it's been 20, 30, 40 days between the times that y'all played. You have to get into the mindset of your character who ended the last session with 100% of X and 20% of Y and 50% of Z.
Or if Peter's not showing up and he decide to play anyway But Peter has most of the slots you will use for healing because you use Alice's slots in the first session of the adventure for healing and damage. So now the party has no spells left except for Peter who's not showing up.
For now the players and the DM have to manage all of this.
I can understand a community where 30 to 50% off the players are first edition being 5th edition explicitly, them wanting to reset resources every session.
Nice post but has nothing to do with what I was responding to:
Sometimes because scheduling has groups adventuring in irregular times or incomplete parties.
All the things you mention (which I've already mentioned to one degree or another) is right there on your character sheet. You review the sheet, making note of what all your resource amounts (hp, spell levels, etc.) currently are at.
If you miss more sessions and you know it has been a while, take a bit more time and look it over more carefully. It isn't hard... which again, you agreed to.
Incomplete parties has NOTHING to do with finishing a session with a long rest. That player (and assuming their PC) are absent regardless of if you took a long rest or not.
IF another player takes over for that PC, you give them a bit of extra time to see what the resources are at. Obviously they should be experienced enough and familiar with the other PC to handle running a second character. If that player isn't comfortable with it, you find another solution. Either way, it has nothing to do with long rest or not. If they can handle the second PC at "full strength", then they should be able to handle it at less than that IME.
The problem is that original community and the designers themselves won't commit to telling them yeah that's going to throw off the balance and could hamper your fun.
Who knows? Balance can be changed by the DM to allow for PCs to begin every session at full strength, and for some groups that might be more fun. Is it "easier" for them? I guess so, given the statements made in this thread. But I know such "gamist" handling of the adventures and such aren't my cup of tea and I wouldn't play in such a game. That's just my preference. It isn't hard to spend 5 minutes reviewing your PC before you start a session.