You guys are making me blush.
As you can see from my extremely outdated PbP sig, I joined literally dozens of games during my most prolific years, and over half of them were in the Dead or Dying category by the time I had to leave, and more should have been there.
DMs do have a tendency to vanish, that seems to be the cause of more PbP deaths than player dropout. There's always new players if you find a way to fit their characters in, DMs are harder to find. The effort that goes into a single DM post is much much more than what goes into a single player post. A DM is posting in response to all 6 (or however many) people in her game as well as all the NPCs to boot. So it's the equivalent of ten posts even though it's only one, assuming the DM is doing a major update. This is why it may look like I'm popping on ENWorld all the time but not posting a lot. Popping in to check on the games I'm in and posting to them takes much less energy and thought than doing even a single DM post to one of my games. I don't begrudge that at all, but it is more effort.
I swore to myself I would make sure my games didn't die, and I have successfully taken several games to an actual conclusion. I have had only one game I purposefully let go, and that was one I attempted to take over for a burnt-out DM. It was a mistake because I was trying to deal with the baggage from a very long-running campaign. The other games I had to put on permanent pause due to my job situation (long story of woe there, with much crying and moving and cursing and working 12-hour days).
While I have ideas for dozens of games that I would like to run, I know I can't keep up more than three realistically. I'm not in college anymore and I have a house that needs tending to and a job that must be done. When my fiance comes to visit I curtail my time even more, so I know I can't take on more games to avoid overstretching myself.
So... which ENWorld PbP games make it past their third month? Those with dedicated DMs that are not hard hit by real life. Some DMs have flaked out, but many more have been hit with hard drive meltdowns, internet connection issues, job problems, college classes, housing fiascos, marriage, or personal troubles of large magnitude. You just have to hope your DM is steadily employed, securely housed, with a good computer and steady connection, and is mostly sane. That may sound a little odd, but summing up the reasons I've heard for people leaving the PbP boards, that seems to be a winning combination. I think we need to set up a little "Save the DMs!" fund or something on PayPal...
