James Gasik
We don't talk about Pun-Pun
So I realized when you posted this that I failed to explain what actually happened. It was a TPK, but the DM, not wanting his game to implode because of it, allowed us to go back and redo the encounter. My friend insisted that if we did everything again, we could win with better die rolls, and said he would do the same thing he did the first time, because, again, it was what his character would do..It sounds below like it was not a TPK, just his character getting squished.
So the party was on board with his plan.
This is all his choice here. He chose to take this into combat here.
So the party did not back him up at this point.
That is an issue.
I can see feeling angry after getting killed and feeling left out to dry and not backed up by the party when things turned south, but scorn can be an issue.
Going from stereotypical racial hate to attack is an affirmative choice.
I agree it was an encounter, but encounters do not have to go to combat. It could have easily been an insult trading back and forth.
Sounds like he wants to play a combatant who can get in over his head against a more powerful enemy, use poor tactics, and not get squished. Seems like a possible mismatch of expectations.
Not cool. That is an issue.
So the biggest issue to me as described seems to be the one true wayism on unoptimized builds and tactics and insults on those who don't character build according to his preferences.
Secondarily there is the unoptimized (rogue played as a fighter) hitting the mechanics (slow non-stealthy dwarf soloing an unengaged giant after the party ambush plan fails) and being upset by the result.
After some discussion, the rest of us decided that even if we won, we would probably lose more characters, and decided to evade the giant.