King Nate
First Post
I've been playing D&D for many many years now and recently got married. My wife had no idea that I played D&D. I never felt the need to tell her before we got married. However she started asking me many questions on this "hobby" that I spend so much time with.
Past experiences proved to me that the mere mention of the name Dungeons and Dragons or Roleplaying Game brings instant stereotypes and preconceptions to that person's mind that you can't change for anything.
I didn't want to have this be the first black cloud on my new marriage. I quickly thought up an alterative that goes something like this.
"What I participate in would be called something like a group storytelling sessions. Everyone gets together, one person creates a story and the other people are the main characters in that story. Each person's actions affect the story. Now there are rules to this group storytelling that everyone has to follow to determine the random elements that come up in the story."
I then broke out my dicebag. She laughed at the dice when I displayed them. I then introduced each one to her and had her roll. To my surprise, she rolled either the highest number or second highest number on all the dice except the d20 where she rolled a 1.
When she said that it was interesting and wanted to join the group storytelling, I was shocked. After thinking about it really hard, I broke out the Player's Handbook. To my surprise she had never heard of the game Dungeons and Dragons (I thought everyone at least knows of the game). When went through the process of creating her a character [Eldarin (because they are look beautiful) Ranger (because she wants to use bows and arrows to stay away from the bad guys)].
When went through a mock combat scenario which I let her win the first round then gave her an encounter way above her head to kill her. I explained that if she had friends to rely on she probably wouldn't had died in this combat.
I wish I could say that the story ended there but it gets weird from her on out.
I am out doing the husband thing, having dinner with her friends when she begins to explain her new hobby. I can feel the cold sweat beginning to pour down my face.
She got about four words out when she turned to me and asked me what was the name of the hobby, "Dun..." GASP!, I quickly interrupted her, turned to her friends and went through the same process of explaining it as a group storytelling process with rules that you do with other people.
Then it happened. They thought it sounded interesting and my wife invited them to participate in a session! They all agreed! In two weeks I am scheduled to run a game with only four girls (a first all girl game in D&D history).
Besides being extremely worried that these girls will either relies that they will be playing D&D or that I will find it really hard to create a story that an all girl group will enjoy, I also have the added thought in the back of my mind...why didn't I think about this when I was a teenager!
Anyway does anyone have any ideas for an all girl group? I was thinking romance, but I don't think I would feel comfortable running a romance storyline for my wife and her friends.
Past experiences proved to me that the mere mention of the name Dungeons and Dragons or Roleplaying Game brings instant stereotypes and preconceptions to that person's mind that you can't change for anything.
I didn't want to have this be the first black cloud on my new marriage. I quickly thought up an alterative that goes something like this.
"What I participate in would be called something like a group storytelling sessions. Everyone gets together, one person creates a story and the other people are the main characters in that story. Each person's actions affect the story. Now there are rules to this group storytelling that everyone has to follow to determine the random elements that come up in the story."
I then broke out my dicebag. She laughed at the dice when I displayed them. I then introduced each one to her and had her roll. To my surprise, she rolled either the highest number or second highest number on all the dice except the d20 where she rolled a 1.
When she said that it was interesting and wanted to join the group storytelling, I was shocked. After thinking about it really hard, I broke out the Player's Handbook. To my surprise she had never heard of the game Dungeons and Dragons (I thought everyone at least knows of the game). When went through the process of creating her a character [Eldarin (because they are look beautiful) Ranger (because she wants to use bows and arrows to stay away from the bad guys)].
When went through a mock combat scenario which I let her win the first round then gave her an encounter way above her head to kill her. I explained that if she had friends to rely on she probably wouldn't had died in this combat.
I wish I could say that the story ended there but it gets weird from her on out.
I am out doing the husband thing, having dinner with her friends when she begins to explain her new hobby. I can feel the cold sweat beginning to pour down my face.
She got about four words out when she turned to me and asked me what was the name of the hobby, "Dun..." GASP!, I quickly interrupted her, turned to her friends and went through the same process of explaining it as a group storytelling process with rules that you do with other people.
Then it happened. They thought it sounded interesting and my wife invited them to participate in a session! They all agreed! In two weeks I am scheduled to run a game with only four girls (a first all girl game in D&D history).
Besides being extremely worried that these girls will either relies that they will be playing D&D or that I will find it really hard to create a story that an all girl group will enjoy, I also have the added thought in the back of my mind...why didn't I think about this when I was a teenager!
Anyway does anyone have any ideas for an all girl group? I was thinking romance, but I don't think I would feel comfortable running a romance storyline for my wife and her friends.