Moms who banned DnD

Well, I Grew up in an extremely religious family. What am I talking about? I still live and AM growing up with an extremely religious family, but I've never had any real problems with being forbidden to do anything. When my parents first found out I was playing DnD, I thought they would give me a special talk or something, but they only said, "Oh, really? That's interesting. I hope you have fun." My mom actually encourages it now that she knows my friends and enjoys having them over so she can make pizza or gumbo for them.

Other mothers at church get a little queezy over the subject, but no one really cares that much, which is odd, since my religion is supposed to be really uptight and prude. In fact, I've never seen any ammount of anti-DnD crap anywhere, except, of course at school, where it's still geeky/nerdy/uncool.

I suppose I'm just lucky.
 

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Wow. Interesting stories...

My mom doesn't really know what D&D is, but what little she knows she thinks is "neat" at most. She likes her kids to be doing anything creative.

Then again, my parents were the same folks who routinely took their kids to Vegas a few times a year, handing them $50 spending cash and leaving them to wander aimlessly about the strip at all hours. You know, instead of taking us to educational places, or theme parks...

They ended up sending the LVPD out after us one night (turned out we were just in the arcade :rolleyes: ) but we survived.

I guess my point is, I don't think that my parents , even now, would have ever fallen for the ol' D&D is the devil stuff...

MojoGM and I were recently approached by a random stranger in a Borders in Boston in the RPG section and told that we were, essentially, the devil's own. We just kind of made a joke about it and laughed it off.
 

Well, my parents are catholic, and my father had heard of some of the "D&D is evil!" things. I was utterly perplexed at this (I'm 14 and got into it when I was 12, so I never even heard of D&D before NWN, much less hearing about it was satanic). Well, I spoke with my mother about the game, and she didn't seem to have much problem with it. I compiled a 20 website long list of websites defending D&D. This, combined with my mother, convinced my dad.
 

Djeta Thernadier said:
MojoGM and I were recently approached by a random stranger in a Borders in Boston in the RPG section and told that we were, essentially, the devil's own. We just kind of made a joke about it and laughed it off.

You have a Borders guy too, neat. We have one of those, and we have a lovely pyramid scheme recruiter. Very interesting people, they actually wait to annoy people. Oh, and theres occationally a scientologist recruiter, but that job seems to rotate.

I actually TRY to sit down with these people and converse with them. I've been PAYED for my time before (by the pyramid scheme guy, just $5, but that's good enough for 40 minutes of entertainment). Of course, I also test Solicitors 'we never hang up' rules to their limits as well.
 

The only problems I've ever had that were gaming related were A) When I first started gaming when I was 12. My mother had a problem with me being away from home for hours at a time. And B) When I was about 16 and another player brought his female friend over to play. She didn't like the thought of a girl alone with a bunch of guys in my room. o_O

All in all, I've experienced zero intolerance in regards to my being a gamer from those who aren't.

Conversely, I've experienced ample intolerance from gamers about other things about me, but that's for another thread.
 

Tolen Mar said:
My wife didnt like it much, not because of the evil aspect but because she couldnt understand the interest and she thought it would take my interest from her (that's a very difficult thing to do ;)). It also didnt matter what I played, we had big fights over car wars.

Ditto about that. Especially about the car wars thing. My wife tried to understand it and even played once, but just doesn't understand the obsession.



Growing up I never had the problems people are describing, thank god. I heard about others who did. Many of my D&D products were gifts from various relatives (my Grandmother gave me the Red Box set, bless her heart), so they obviously didn't have a problem with it. My closest run-in with this sort of problem was a good friend who say his 'Shogun' board game and didn't like some of the japanese images in it (which weren't offensive at all but were very intricate and strange-looking). I believe he had get rid of it or something.
 

While it was around, and I was aware of it, I didn't get into AD&D (1e) or any of the boxed versions until college. Then, one of my brother's old friends invited me to join his game, which was just converting from one of the boxed versions to 1e.

That summer, my brother told me about a friend of his who was involved in a game. His friend had mentioned it, bro told him I played, and the friend had invited me. So bro took me to a game, stuck around (since I didn't know anyone there), and even tried to play a game... After that, he never played again ("It's worse than Monopoly. That game never ends!"), but he would drop me off. This continued throughout the summer, until I went back to school.

When I returned, the next summer, something had changed! D&D was "The Devil's Game". It was bad, and evil, an introduction to the occult, and... other bad stuff! Not only my Mom (not sure about my Dad), but also my brother now believed it!

To this day, they still do. I have always wondered what happened, that year while I was away. I have tried to talk to them about it, many times over the years, but the anger the subject generates is so intense that they cannot have a rational (let alone lengthy) discussion about it. Every time I have brought it up, they have gotten angry, and stormed out.

All I know is that I saw a film at church, one night. It was about some young man (whose name I have long forgotten), who was on death row for the murder of his parents, and was talking about why, and all the stuff he had been into...

He had played D&D. He had been into a lot of other things, including going to the local graveyard and entering the crypts to get bones, then trying to cast spells. He stated that, putting together things he got from D&D with things gleaned from other sources, he had found that it worked. He had gotten heavily into the occult, and satanism, and ended up shotgunning his parents while they were sleeping in their bed. The film was shot while he was on death row. He has since been put to death, I heard.

I recall his statement: "D&D is a dangerous game! I think it's very dangerous!" I think that's where a lot of the Anti-D&D hysteria came from (although that's not the only source).

Let's face it; if you believe in the Bible, and take a straight, literal interpretation of it, then there are a lot of things in D&D that ARE offensive, at least at first glance. Spells, divination, necromancy, sorcery, wizardry, etc., etc., ad nauseum, all are directly condemned by the Bible. Demon summoning is right out!

Unfortunately, D&D has all these elements, and even uses them where they don't apply. Clerics, for instance, shouldn't "cast spells", they should "perform miracles". But, nope, the game designers re-use the same mechanic for all classes, instead of Spells for "Mages", Miracles for Divine classes, and "Songs" for Bards...

Some of the recent "additions" to the game won't help, either. Book of Vile Darkness? Book of Erotic Fantasy? I hope no one in my family ever sees any of this... stuff!

Some other fantasy games may get off, easier, just because they're NOT D&D, but many with the same elements won't. While my family always hated any form of RPG ("Weird Stuff" to my Mom - who says the same thing about Star Trek - any version!), they had fewer problems with Sci-Fi or SuperHero RPGs.

Well, I can understand some objections to the game. If you can get someone who objects to sit down and go through the Player's Handbook with you, ask'em to show you what is evil. And then listen with respect, and try to address their concerns. Sometimes, "magic" will be it. Invite'm to play Traveller, or Top Secret, instead...
 

hehehe, my dad is still trying to get me to teach him Dnd, yet I keep telling him I'm too busy. What's really funny is that he isn't a big fan of fantasy, not even one little bit. Their just worried that I may waste too much time and they keep insisting that I should buy the books for myself (I got some of the books for free).
 

I was fortunate. My mom bought the original box for christmas one year. I was young enough to have trouble understanding the rules. The three original books were not a good set for learning the game. My Mom read through the rules with me and my brother and we tried to make a go of it. A couple of years later the blue box came out by Arneson with the Tom Wham illustrations. Those rules helped us understand the game much more. Mom and brother were my first players.
 


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