My friend is dying

I have had cats all my life and have had to make some tough decisions regarding these "friends" of mine several times. I would suggest following the vets advise. Never let the animal suffer just because of the pain. It does go away eventually. I would suggest maybe getting a new kitten to help out. They are too fun to keep you sad and they can help remind you of the good times with Linus. I empathize greatly with you and pray that everything will work out for the best.

RPJ
 

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I'll echo what some others have said... if your pet is not in pain, and is able to still live a normal life, don't euthanize it just because it's getting old.

Frankly, one of my biggest problems with most vets is that sometimes it almost seems like their universal response to things is "you might want to think about putting it to sleep"... Damnit, pets aren't disposable plastic bags. You don't trade it in for a new one just because.

Yes, I know, I'm being unfair to a lot of vets, and there are certainly situations where it's the better choice, but still...
 

Oh, Liquide, I'm so very sorry.

I understand exactly how you feel, because I'm very attached to my dog. But I do think that the kind thing to do is to put Linus down. Animals can't understand why they're in pain, and if comes to pass that a pet's quality of life becomes poor, we who love them are obligated to give them the gift of peaceful death.

Take Linus back to the vet, go into the room with him, and hold him as the vet gives him the injection. Talk soothingly to your dear cat, and ease him from this world. You owe it to Linus for all the years of love and companionship he has given you.

Again, I'm extremely sorry for your pain. Consider yourself hugged.
 

Liquide said:

The vet told me that the best way for me was to put him to sleep, but I feel I cannot do that I cannot take away the life of a friend of mine that I have known for so long and share so many good memories with.

http://www.schackofalltrades.com/euthanasia.html

frankly the article's pretty old and I should probably do a rewrite on it, but its better than blabbing it all here. I worked as a vet tech for several years and have been in anilmal care since college, and I'd be happy to talk to you off line if you want. Don't be pressured by your vet, but don't hold back out of a false guilt either. Your friend is dying no matter what you do, and you have the ability (and yes the right) to help control how it happens.

Kahuna Burger
 

It's pretty cool reading everyone's stories about the special pets they've had throughout their lives.

We used to have a cat named Dusty. For the first few days that we had her, she hid underneath our couch. After a few days she changed hiding places to my brother's bed. She sort of became his cat, as she liked him the most of all of us. Particularly amusing was her affection for his guitar playing. Whenever he'd play, she'd have to be in the room with him, twitching her tail and watching. When he moved out, my brother had to leave Dusty behind. She and I became fast friends. She was the sweetest, smartest cat I've ever known.

Once, when she had only been with us for a month or so, I caught her on top of a dresser where she wasn't allowed. My brother told me that I had to swat her and then get her down. I didn't really want to hurt her, so I sort of half-flicked her on the side. She turned, gave me a very strange look, and then swatted my hand with her paw. She used to steal checkers while Mom and I were playing and hide them in my brother's shoe. She was a great campanion and friend.

I found her dead on the couch one morning as I was getting ready for highschool. She had been in good health, although once or twice I had seen her sort of blank out...losing her concentration and fall from a couch or table. I was concerned, but it only happened a few times and I assumed it was just part of growing old. The next week she was gone. Because I found her on the couch, one of her favorite sleeping places, I assume she died peacefully.

I wrote a poem for her after she was gone. She was a great cat.
 

I must add one quick thing. One of my friends in High School had a cat that was somewhere around 18 or 19 years old. This cat was practically a living mummy. You could see the shape of its bones though its fur, which it was always a little nappy. Its eyes were milky and it had very poor vision. The thing is, this was one of the coolest cat's I've met. He was happy, healthy, and very friendly. Granted, he sleep most all of the time, but whenever there were people around he would get up and come sit with them.

I've lost touch with my friend, so I don't know the ultimate fate of his friendly mummy-cat. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that the thing is still alive though, clinging to life like some kind of ancient egyptian guardian of the pharoahs...
 

Thanks for all the kind words, you truly are why I love this place so much.

Linus is not really in pain from what I gather from the vet, he is just a man that old age finally caught up with. He enjoys his life so far, but he is taking it more and more easy for each day that passes.

My hopes is that he will die in peace in a place he finds familiar, not in a sterile vets enviroment.

My other problem is that I have Oskar my other cat aswell, I will not know how he will react if one day we just take Linus out of my home and return without him.

And once again, thank you for all the kind words.

You all are truly what one would consider friends in the real world.
 

Sorry to hear about your companion, Linus.

I was in a similar situation two years ago with my cat Misty. She was a gift from my parents when I was three, making her 19 when she started having problems.

She kept holding her head funny and walking in circles. Since she liked to go outdoors, we were worried that she had been hit by a car. I took her to the vet right away. They said that she had had a stroke, and that she wasn't in any pain, but that she was feeling off balance, like she was dizzy. They suggested that I put her to sleep.

I took her home and explained all this to my parents (who lived next door to my husband and I at the time), and everyone was very shocked. They told me that it was my decison. My mother was completely against having Misty put to sleep, and the vet said that she wasn't in pain, but that she might be confused. It was an awful thing to have to think about...do you have your friend "put down" because they're dizzy and old, or do you let them go when they're ready?

It was a very tough decision, and it caused alot of grief trying to decide. But, a few days later, she passed away in her sleep in my parents house. That was where she grew up, and it seemed fitting.

If your Linus isn't in any pain, then you should do what feels right. Good luck.
 
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Liquide,

One more voice of condolence to add. I am truly sorry to hear that. I am the current ownder of ten pets, many dogs and cats, and I honestly can say I understand. I have had to have three pets put to sleep: One with feline leukemia, one with a gastrointenstinal problem that surgery could not solve, and one with a rare blood disease that caused severe brain trauma. In all cases, euthanasia was the most humane answer for us.

In your case, it sounds as if your Linus is not in pain. if he is in minld pain, the vet can probably help with medication; I would say let nature take its course, and just keep careful eye on him. If he gets suddenly worse, then my advice is not to let any feeling of guilt dissuade you; putting down a animal in constant pain can be a very freeing experience for it, and afterwards for you also.

In any event, I wish you as much peace as you can muster, and will pray for the best possible course to be revealed to you.

Take care.
 

I can say with all sincerity that I know how confusing and worrysome these situation are. A few years ago I had to make an on the spot decision to have my best friend, a canine named Spike, of 15 years put to sleep. He was literally born in my hands. Last September 1st I was involved in a similar decision regarding my mother. I know all the questions, and wondering and "what ifs" and there is no easy way of dealing with it.

The most honest bit of advice I can give you is that you will know when it is time to say goodbye. Dont' rush it and try not to even think about it or worry about it. Take each day for what it is, spend time with Linus and enjoy each other. When the time comes you'll know what is to be done. Because at that moment it won't be about you. It'll be about your friend and that makes the decision simpler.
 

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