[OT] The Secrets of Dating, or How to Get the Girl!

[mirzabah]

Are you serious?!?! Well that's probably 'the American way'. There are people on this planet who find social status and money not a prerequisite for dating. These people tend to fall in love on general principal, not because 'johnny earns [insert large amount of money] and has a new [insert large expensive car] and has a lot of [insert absurd expensive jewelry] and goes by the name of [insert random pimp name]

I'm sorry to say, but that was the saddest piece of advice I have read in a long, long time on so many many levels...

I could be completely wrong here, but I don't think the guy was serious. Cynical observations on the opposite sex's stereotypical choice in partners are a time-honoured tradition and inevitable in a discussion like this. Women will complain about how men always seem to go for big-breasted vacousness, while men will complain how women seem to fall for rich misogynists.

Cheers,
Mirzabah.

 

[Viking Bastard]

..."getting some booty"...

It's a joke. Damn frickin' JOKE! My post is not to be taken seriously! If everybody really wants to take it seriously, look at the ending and view it as a 'growing-up-kinda-thing'.

 

[Psion]

Digressing entirely, it's amazing what people think about this country from watching American television!

Where's Ravelion? He needs to read this...

 

[Isida Kep'Tukari]

It's a joke. Damn frickin' JOKE! My post is not to be taken seriously! If everybody really wants to take it seriously, look at the ending and view it as a 'growing-up-kinda-thing'.

As I said in my post - I have a degree in cluelessness. It makes me real fun at parties. Not.

It wasn't just your post, it was several others as well. Taking the thread as a whole, it just made me mad.

 

[Psion]

Re: Not that I wanted to respond, but I got sucked in!

10) If your friends don't like her, it won't work.

Heh. Good advice. Especially if you are young and impressionable. Your friends aren't wearing the same rose colored glasses you were.

My friends were always at odds with one of my first girlfriends. If I only knew... hindsight is 20/20.

 

[Morbidity]

As I said in my post - I have a degree in cluelessness. It makes me real fun at parties. Not.

It wasn't just your post, it was several others as well. Taking the thread as a whole, it just made me mad.

Really? Personally, I always find threads like this very amusing ... particularly when people take them seriously and make emphatic generalisations. For example neither I nor any of my female friends have ever realised that we've sized men up for their bedroom potential within the first 60 seconds. But perhaps it's part of a global female conspiracy to spread misinformation and leave males floundering trying to work out what makes their women tick.

As a somewhat related aside: One of the more amusing moments at GenCon was when I was on a table with a guy playing a female ... my efforts to teach him to flirt properly terrified every other male on the table.

 

[Paladin]

It wasn't just your post, it was several others as well. Taking the thread as a whole, it just made me mad.

I agree, it is maddening to think so many men out there are so clueless! As for the 'Get the first marraige out of the way- you'll learn a lot!' comment, Paladin and I are seriously considering writing a book, we'll let you know. And, BTW, he wouldn't know a pass if it involved a club and a thong! Paladinwife

 

[EricNoah]

As always, off-topic posts are subject to closure without much (if any) warning. Please keep all conversation in this thread tasteful. (I've already discovered I needed to add another word to the profanity filter, thankyouverymuch).

 

[jester47]

Really? Personally, I always find threads like this very amusing ... particularly when people take them seriously and make emphatic generalisations. For example neither I nor any of my female friends have ever realised that we've sized men up for their bedroom potential within the first 60 seconds. But perhaps it's part of a global female conspiracy to spread misinformation and leave males floundering trying to work out what makes their women tick.

As a somewhat related aside: One of the more amusing moments at GenCon was when I was on a table with a guy playing a female ... my efforts to teach him to flirt properly terrified every other male on the table.

well the 60 seconds thing is called a first impression and it is very important in how a person reacts to another after that impression. It is not the be all end all, but if you mess it up it can be a big obstacle in any situation, not just dating. I think that is what people are really picking up on.

Wow, I'm completely unqualified for giving out advice.

I should write a self-help book.

Aaron.

 

[maddman75]

I'll be good boy Eric .

Anyway, several comments

- On safe sex - anymore most of us probably assume that anyone going to have casual relationships are well versed in protective measures. In any case I'll add a couple tips of my own. Trojan Supras - latex pores are small enough to stop individual cells and viruses. Also don't keep them in your wallet. They'll just break down. A decent alternative is a mint tin, just the right size.

Dating is just an artificial construct. When you are getting to know someone, do not use the "D" word. All it does is put a lot of pressure on both parties. Hang out, get to know each other.

I'm a big believer in the Tao of Steve - Be desireless, be excellent, be gone. Pretty good movie too (and based on a real guy). Just ignore the silly hollywood ending.

Here's a remarkable revelation - when she's talking, be quiet and *listen* to what she is saying. Most women will tell you exactly what they need, exactly how they want to be treated, and exactly how to get with them. Just listen.

Initiate physical contact. No not there. Not there either - get your mind out of the gutter . Casual contact, brushes on the arm, things like this. Only way to get things moving. Of course, you have to build to this gradually, if she isn't reciprocating or is pulling away you need to back off and slow down. Seduction isn't something you do to someone, its something you do with them.

Have subtlety - if you don't have a good job, act as if you do. I don't mean to lie, but talk about future ambitions, or that you are planning to go to school/get promoted, or that even though it doesn't pay much you like the work. It isn't that all women are gold diggers (most aren't), but few women want to be with a loser.