Not that I wanted to respond, but I got sucked in!
Here's a southern womans point of view, which definately differs from a northern womans, believe me...hopefully a nothern woman will respond, too.
Any how, on the whole "do people actually have first date, second date, third date, etc"... yes, when you are in junior high and a date is at least four people. After that, if your from a small town like we were anyway, then at some point in high school, a group of guys and girls might split off into couples 'somehow' and then the make-out party begins...after that you are considered a couple until such time as one or the other feels they are better than their current make-out partner and moves on to another guys or girls night out. Once you determine you are an adult (when this happens depends on you...you might be 25 or 30 or older (rarely before 25), you decide sex is something that can happen because you are an adult and you want to have it...not because you want a life partner or anything.
Here is the problem...you are not an adult yet...a real adult knows that sex is better with someone you care about, and the hunt is on, but dating still doesn't ever apply here either. You just kind of find someone and fall into a series of meetings and situations people call 'dating'.
On the why do women flirt with taken men...duh! If someone else wants you, you have something going (and believe me, that is hard to find).
Women like jerks because they don't know they are jerks yet, they think they are nice guys, and find out they are jerks later...happens millions of times a day...the jerk always plays the nice guy at first.
Woman and D&D- most have had 0 experience with it and don't generally know what it is, unless their brother plays or something. Throw that out after you get in good with your chick (it makes you seem less geeky, if she's already somewhat fallen for you).
As, for the 60 second rule, that can also change. If you meet a girl in high school, she might not give you the time of day (or even the 60 seconds), but, if you meet the same girl 10 years later...she might give you all the 60 seconds you want, but you might not want them. For those of you looking at this thread seriously, here are some rules...
My rules for adults only...
1) Get the first marraige over with...you'll learn a lot!
For non-previously married persons...
2) Never smell bad!!!!!!!!!!! (Including too much cologne)
3) Never dress like a bum. (No woman wants a bum, as it is a secret desire to have the man be able to take care of us if at some point if feel we want that, but we might not actually want that.)
4) Be involved in something...ANYTHING! (Look like you have a life.)
5) Don't be lazy! ( Major turn-off!)
6) Don't have a superiority complex.
7) Do be yourself. (As long as you are not a jerk)
8) Never drink to unconciousness...totally unattractive!
If you have a girlfriend...
9) Never be an a** just because your friends are there.
10) If your friends don't like her, it won't work.
11) Include, include, include...your girlfriend as much as you can, especially if you intend to 'keep her'.
12) Your girlfriend won't want you to say that you want to 'keep her', for she is not cattle.
13) If you don't want her to do it to you, don't do it to her.
14) If you want to cheat, just go ahead and break up with her, as this is easier than surviving her wrath if your caught. (Sex never "just happens"!)
If you are married...
15) Don't try to date!!!!!!
Hope this else. Paladinwife and female friends!
