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[overgeeked]

I like this coworker, but it's frustrating because it doesn't seem like they're fully aware of the issue, beyond a jokey "ha ha, I'm such a flake" kind of way, despite having a role with a lot of responsibility.

A lot of ADHDers cover with humor. Getting cranky at him won’t help. If it is ADHD he likely beats himself up about it more than you ever could.

I would like to help them find some strategies that would work for them, but that feels like crossing a whole lot of lines.

I’d suggest starting where you can. Adjust your expectations. Give him more slack and follow conversations up with a written recap via email. Don’t rely on his memory when you know it won’t work.