Pineapple Express: Someone Is Wrong on the Internet?

[Scribe]

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[payn]

The semi-retired parents of a friend live in a seniors' condo after selling their home, for the retirement income. Their other "failure to launch" (or re-launch) daughter moved in with them, a while back The whole condo, including balconies, is smoke free. She'll go "outside" onto the balcony to smoke, putting them at risk of sanctions. Nothing that anyone says will stop her. I have no idea why they haven't just put her out.

Yeap, I would feel terrible if I was her. I would go out of my way to not make myself a nuisance in favor of the favor. If I had to hoof it to smoke, id hoof it. Id likley smoke less and save money which is something I probably need to do if im an adult living with my parents not by choice.

 

[Snarf Zagyg]

Yeap, I would feel terrible if I was her. I would go out of my way to not make myself a nuisance in favor of the favor. If I had to hoof it to smoke, id hoof it. Id likley smoke less and save money which is something I probably need to do if im an adult living with my parents not by choice.

Huh. This has weird echoes of a conversation I was just having with @Blue

The problem with that statement is the very qualities that you have that would make you do that, are the same qualities that mean you wouldn't be in the situation to begin with.

That's not to say (especially with the FUBAR housing market) that there aren't real issues faced by young adults today, and that there aren't good reasons that some of them are forced to live with their parents for a time.

But the issue goes to whether the person is now being a young adult and viewing this as a temporary situation that they want to get out of (and treating their parents as adults with respect) or if they are simply reverting back to their teen self with the whole, "Kant tell me what to do, where's my laundry!"

 

[Scribe]

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[Saracenus]

You have the answer. Because they're her parents.

A lot of parents have that whole unconditional love thing. Don't realize that they sometimes need to give the kids a chance to succeed or fail on their own.

Mama Snarf definitely believed in the "sink or swim" method of teaching. It was harsh, but it did work. I mean ... that's literally how she taught me to swim. Just took me to the river one day when I was a wee lil' Snarfling and tossed me in!

....honestly, it wasn't that hard to do, either, once I got out of the bag.

Speaking as a member of the American Gen X, you were lucky Snarf to have a parent around during the day to actually talk you. In the summer we were turned out of the house and told to only come back when the street lights came on or you broke a bone(s). Learning first aid was a survival strategy.

 

[Snarf Zagyg]

Speaking as a member of the American Gen X, you were lucky Snarf to have a parent around during the day to actually talk you. In the summer we were turned out of the house and told to only come back when the street lights came on or you broke a bone(s). Learning first aid was a survival strategy.

I mean, when I think of Mama Snarf, the first word that comes to mind is Lucky ....

Strikes.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

I haven’t kicked a wasp nest in a while…

 

[Ryujin]

You have the answer. Because they're her parents.

A lot of parents have that whole unconditional love thing. Don't realize that they sometimes need to give the kids a chance to succeed or fail on their own.

Mama Snarf definitely believed in the "sink or swim" method of teaching. It was harsh, but it did work. I mean ... that's literally how she taught me to swim. Just took me to the river one day when I was a wee lil' Snarfling and tossed me in!

....honestly, it wasn't that hard to do, either, once I got out of the bag.

Yeah, I'd cut her loose. I've already done that to my entitled, narcissistic sister, decades ago. I don't know if that would make me a good or bad parent, but I'm never going to find out. At least not as far as I know

EDIT - In the story I told the daughter is pushing 50. The parents are in their late 70s/early 80s.

 

[payn]

I haven’t kicked a wasp nest in a while…

Im with emo Dad.

 

[prabe]

I haven’t kicked a wasp nest in a while…