As much as I disliked the changes to the LotR, Jackson's adaption was waaaaaaaaaaaay more Tolkien than this show. The utter trash known as the Hobbit movies were a different story.
Your mixing up details. Tokien's details had a style which is distinctly Tolkien. Look at any of his changes and they all have the details that create his style, and it is THOSE details that are lacking from the show. Not whether Celeborn is married to Galadriel or Teleporno is married to Galadriel.
Look at it this way. The themes of friendship, providence, free choice, an internal stuggle with darkness while seeking the light, and recapitulation are present in Narnia, Wonderland and Middle Earth. The details of how those things are achieved are what make Narnia, Wonderland and Middle Earth all feel different. The show failed to achieve the details necessary to feel like Tolkien.