The GF in the Game

[Mouseferatu]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

As others said, I'm afraid it's you, or at least the couples you've gamed with.

I game with my wife, and there are other married couples in my gaming group as well. At no point has any SO received an unfair advantage or preferential treatment in these games, nor have the relationships caused problems with the gaming group.

 

[Ozmar]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

YES!!! Its horrible.

It wouldn't be so bad, but if they're bad players, then there's nothing you can do about it. At least, not if you want to keep 'em happy.

Ozmar the Whipped

 

[Stalker0]

YES!!! Its horrible.

It wouldn't be so bad, but if they're bad players, then there's nothing you can do about it. At least, not if you want to keep 'em happy.

Ozmar the Whipped

I think this is the worst problem. A DM can grow a spine and make sure there's no favortism one way or the other (it can also be a be a problem is a DM overcompensates and treats the SO worse than other players).

However, if they are a bad roleplayer, that would just suck.

 

[Hjorimir]

I'm in a group where we have two married couples and the DM's SO is one of the players. It's been a blast really.

 

[Ozmar]

I think this is the worst problem. A DM can grow a spine and make sure there's no favortism one way or the other (it can also be a be a problem is a DM overcompensates and treats the SO worse than other players).

However, if they are a bad roleplayer, that would just suck.

It does suck. We've gamed together for a long time, and it wasn't always a problem. But its grown to become one. My problem is that her emotional state affects me. Its become so disrupting, that I can't run the game if she's angry or upset. And she's using it to manipulate me! It even recently got to the point where I just roll my eyes and accede to her demands to keep the peace. Example: rolling stats. I said, "everyone roll them and that's what you get". She didn't like what she got. So rather than argue about it, I just said "fine, reroll until you get what you like", and she did.

In a relationship, you can't sweat the small things. And in a recreational activity, its all small. You really shouldn't get so worked up over a game that it bleeds into your relationship - with anybody. But with us, that amounts to her getting her way, and me being a bad DM. So then I don't like the game, and don't do it often.

Unless I can find a game without her. Then its ok.

Ozmar the Trapped

 

[Nikroecyst]

The last group I have played with, other than my own, the DM has his gf playing a character. Shes was constantly walking away from the table in the middle of the game and didn't really contribute any thing anyways. My gf, gets whiney when things don't go her way, but I usually pay no mind to it and it gets worse. I don't play favorites. Or atleast I would like to think that I don't. I've never had complaints in that department. Also there have been two other games I've played in where the DM's gf was a major pain to the rest of the group. HOWEVER, the best game and the best group I ever played in, (3 years it lasted) the the DM's gf was a major player in the group as far as the story line and I never had a problem with her. Actually one of the better players I ever gamed with.

It just seems to stand that despite the occasional great GF/SO player the majority has been not soo good. Im really startin to agree with every one though, I think it is me . . . .

 

[Nikroecyst]

Ozmar you sound like you gottit bad . . .

 

[Mouseferatu]

It sounds to me like if you dig to the core of the problems being described, the source of those problems is not the fact that the DM's SO is in the game. The source is that the DM's SO happens to be a whiny/selfish/manipulative person. The fact that s/he is the DM's SO exacerbates the problem, but it doesn't cause it.

 

[jgbrowning]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

Just you.

joe b.

 

[Cabled]

Depends

..on whether the significant other is there to game, or to compete with the game. My wife is a player in the game I DM and has been since we got together, but she had some background before we were together, though it was online. Yeah, we met during the EQ beta...for every thousand that don't work out there's one that does, and occasionally the gal really IS a gal. Been happily married 7 years now, and she's a fantastic wife AND gamer.