The GF in the Game

[Sejs]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

Nah, it's just you.

Hell, the first PC I killed in my game was my wife's rogue.

You're assuming there's going to be favoritism or some other pressure involved. Not necessarily the case.

 

[WhatGravitas]

Must be you. I've been DMing with my girlfriend in the group for a very long time (5+ years). I never have any problems and neither do my players. I'm kinda harder on her then I am anyone else and not on purpose. I just don't want people to think she gets special treatment and I guess I subconsciously single her out at times.

Ditto, also my problem.

However, GFs can indeed be a huge problem. One friend of mine brought his GF to my games for a short while. The first times, she feigned interest, then she constantly got sick, causing her friend to quit the game earlier... and finally, he persuaded me to allow her to join the group.

She created a cookie-cutter clone of Princess Mononoke. And insisted on the name "Mononoke", gamed about 4 hours and went... sick again. She never gamed again, nor did she ever accompanied her friend to my friends, nor would I allow her to come with him.

My friend doesn't game that much anymore, in fact, he cancels sessions, he is more-than-often "preoccupied" with her, and still wants to game, he just cannot overcome his urge to stick with her, because she needs attention *badly* - but in this case it's not only a problem with her, it's rather that he allows her to compromise his hobbies, because he fears loss.

 

[RFisher]

I've been in three groups that included a couple. It has never been even the slightest problem. Or, at least, never enough of one that the rest of us could tell.

Now, they were all married couples. Well, one we're married when the group formed, but they are now.

 

[thedungeondelver]

Sorry to the OP for dogpiling but...it's just you man. It's just you.

I have had to date one bad "GF/SO at the table" experience. Every - I mean every other husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend "team" who's gamed with the group has been a positive experience.

Mrs. TheDungeonDelver likes to game. My mom-in-law likes to game. My best friend's wife likes to game and laments that they don't live near us any more to game. Our other dear friends (another husband and wife) practically beg me to bring some form of D&D over when we visit them in Tampa. In a mid-week D&D group I'm in, two of the players are a couple, and even after nearly breaking up (I'm not sure of the status of that) they both still come to the game and have a great time together.

Nope. No problems with SOs gaming here.

 

[Ozmar]

Sorry to the OP for dogpiling but...it's just you man. It's just you.

OP: don't worry, man. It's not just you. I do think that, by and large, there are more positive situations out there than negative. But you're not the only one!

Ozmar the Sympathetic

 

[Anti-Sean]

Do the rest of your players hog the covers and jab you with their feet often?!?

Not *too* often - it's usually just gentle spooning.

 

[Wil]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

No, my wife is a player and it poses no problem at all.

 

[Crothian]

Is it me or is the biggest problem a DM could have is a gf or significant other as a player?

I run a game for an ex girlfriend and her husband. Trust me, there are bigger problems!!

 

[Gundark]

with mature couples? No problem at all. I've never had a problem with it.

Heck my wife's character just died last night with me as DM. No problems.

 

[WhimsyTheFae]

No, my wife is a player and it poses no problem at all.

So, you're wife's a player...what's her number? What? Not that kind of player...

As to the question at hand, my wife also plays and it hasn't caused problems. I've also been in games where SOs have caused problems. So, I don't think it's just you, but it's instead dependant upon the situation.