The "I Didn't Comment in Another Thread" Thread

[Hussar]

Sorry, no. Anecdotes are not evidence. They don’t prove anything.

Umm. Just to be technical but anecdotes absolutely are evidence. If anecdotes were not evidence, law would be a lot different.

Anecdotes are not proof. The very much are evidence.

 

[AnotherGuy]

At what point does it go from reasonably being bad luck on their part getting the worst from all these companies over the years, to more plausibly being something about their pickiness, overly elaborate plans, prickliness, and unreasonable expectations?

The issue may be deeper. It may be about their own personal unhappiness rather than the service.

 

[niklinna]

The issue may be deeper. It may be about their own personal unhappiness rather than the service.

I was at a tango festival in July, and went out for some air during one dance, and there was a fellow I'd seen over the weekend looking glum. I asked what was wrong, and he said no one had asked him to dance and it made him sad. So I said let's go in and dance and he started to smile. And then every time I saw him for the rest of the evening, he was in someone's arms looking so happy. I think he just needed to have a smile on his face for most other guys to want to dance with him.

 

[Snarf Zagyg]

IRL have a FB friend who seems to have major difficulties with at least third of their flights and half their hotel reservations, and regularly has major problems with service at stores or restaurants.

At what point does it go from reasonably being bad luck on their part getting the worst from all these companies over the years, to more plausibly being something about their pickiness, overly elaborate plans, prickliness, and unreasonable expectations?

So, if it was just flights, I could possibly empathize. I mean ... have you flown recently? I have to fly a fair amount, and it really is a nightmare compared to how it was pre-pandemic. And it wasn't like it was all that great before that.

That said, there are a number of sayings that relate to this, all of them of the form-

If everyone around you is the problem, then the problem isn't everyone around you.

 

[Thomas Shey]

Can they disprove some always or nevers?

I personally think that going that far is asking to be put into a situation where your assertion is almost immediately disproved or you're required to assume (and say) someone is a liar. Yet it apparently happens often enough I have to rather testily point out to people who respond to things I've posted by noting that I did, indeed, qualify my statement so could they not respond like I didn't?

 

[Cadence]

The issue may be deeper. It may be about their own personal unhappiness rather than the service.

This seems like it could be a thing. And I wonder if it could also be that each person has a stress pool that the day wears against - and people with more stressful days or smaller stress pools and up noticing things and being really annoyed by them more than they otherwise might be.

 

[Thomas Shey]

This seems like it could be a thing. And I wonder if it could also be that each person has a stress pool that the day wears against - and people with more stressful days or smaller stress pools and up noticing things and being really annoyed by them then they otherwise might be.

If you're particularly introverted, just being out and among people can erode your ability to deal with things. COVID probably magnified this, since I notice just doing things like going grocery shopping can leave me enervated for a good part of the day.

 

[J.Quondam]

If you're particularly introverted, just being out and among people can erode your ability to deal with things. COVID probably magnified this, since I notice just doing things like going grocery shopping can leave me enervated for a good part of the day.

Yeah, for me at least, introversion is doubly vexing in that being out and about is tiring and can make me cranky, while too much self-isolation leaves me socially "out of practice", which can look pretty cranky from the outside.

 

[overgeeked]

If you're particularly introverted, just being out and among people can erode your ability to deal with things. COVID probably magnified this, since I notice just doing things like going grocery shopping can leave me enervated for a good part of the day.

Yeah, for me at least, introversion is doubly vexing in that being out and about is tiring and can make me cranky, while too much self-isolation leaves me socially "out of practice", which can look pretty cranky from the outside.

Absolutely. My tolerance for people was low already but the pandemic erased what little tolerance I’d built up over the years. Dealing with people takes way too many spoons.

 

[ichabod]

And then all of us introverts go on the internet and practice our lack of social skills, which explains a lot.