I tried to have a conversation about actual compromise and all I get is if I don't allow a tortle I'm a terrible DM.The only possible conclusion, from your hard-binary presentation, is either that giving the player anything at all that the GM wasn't already bringing to the table means the player has "won", or that the GM has "won" and the player doesn't get the thing. So if the player doesn't "win"...they aren't getting anything at all that they want, unless it was something the GM was already offering. Which means there is no compromise at all--the "compromise" is "You get to choose any race you want, as long as it's one of the four I permitted you to choose." How is that not the GM being always right, and the player being always wrong unless and until they agree with the GM?
I cannot be the right DM for everyone. Meanwhile my players are quite happy with the game and I run. Restrictions and all.


