Raven Crowking said:Passing through Customs when you get off a plane might seem invasive, too, but I assure you that setting fire to the furniture in retaliation is a bad move.
tensen said:Word of advice.. new DMs should stick to the corebooks before figuring out if they can handle other oddities.
seem to be becoming more common lately. On my game's messageboard, a player of mine who has this attitude (and caused me to stop running the game for a time) expressed the opinion that this is the way things are now and that the game and the players will never be like I remember them from "my youth" (he is 19 and I am 34), so I need to learn to live with it, because that is just how people are today, basically. I just don't buy it. I told him that there are lots of people that are playing the game that are not that way. I am strongly considering not inviting him when I resume the game.game-busting, "look how cool I am," i-deserve-more-time-than-anyone-else-in-this-game type personalities
wolf70 said:On my game's messageboard, a player of mine who has this attitude (and caused me to stop running the game for a time) expressed the opinion that this is the way things are now and that the game and the players will never be like I remember them from "my youth" (he is 19 and I am 34), so I need to learn to live with it, because that is just how people are today, basically. I just don't buy it. I told him that there are lots of people that are playing the game that are not that way. I am strongly considering not inviting him when I resume the game.
Mark said:Stongly considering? I'd have deleted his account on the message board, first, and then shot him an email to let him know he should avoid being around me. People like that are easy to void from one's life.
wolf70 said:Unfortunately, as my other players have called me numerous times during my brief hiatus to remind me, "You just don't cut friends out of your game." He is scheduled to leave town within the next 6 months and they think I should let him in until then, or I am betraying his friendship.
On an interesting note, he also runs a game for another group and this group is also looking for a way to tell their very good friend that they are not having fun playing the game he is running for them either. They have taken to having sessions with another player (who was also in my group) runnning the game that they do not tell him about.
It all leaves me in a quandary about "doing the right thing." Good judgement tells me to shoot him an email telling him exactly why I think he is not a good fit for my campaign (though I have told everyone the reasons I stopped running the game, I am not convinced that he realizes that those responsible include him in a HUGE way). His other group does not want to hurt his feelings or destroy the friendship either, though they are thinking about moving their game to the same night as mine, so he has to choose.
My take on it from my perspective is that it is not about friendship as much as it is about preserving my sanity and enjoyment of the game.
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wolf70 said:On my game's messageboard, a player of mine who has this attitude (and caused me to stop running the game for a time) expressed the opinion that this is the way things are now and that the game and the players will never be like I remember them from "my youth" (he is 19 and I am 34), so I need to learn to live with it, because that is just how people are today, basically. I just don't buy it. I told him that there are lots of people that are playing the game that are not that way. I am strongly considering not inviting him when I resume the game.
Ankh-Morpork Guard said:I'm 18 and I don't buy it. I still can't understand the need to be so adversarial in a game like D&D...though, truthfully, I've never encountered it before. Online or face to face.
as for the social contract, its sort of what has just become of gaming because of editions and just general social norms. people have become less complacent and more ass-holish.
to defend an adversarial game.we all have to admit that not every decision made by a DM was enjoyable. it may have suited him at the time, but how much fun did everyone else have?
wolf70 said:While he is to some degree correct on the last point, where is the line drawn?