Why do women send mixed signals?

[Mercule]

So its easier for me to stay home and "be a dick", at least they are not lieing to me.

And.... That's your choice. If it's the one you make, well, you know what you're going to get. Feel free to change at any point.

To be honest, it would have been easier for me to make the same choice. Or just to keep on gaming all weekend, every weekend. But, I didn't because I wanted to find someone. And I did.

Guess what? No women are going to climb up on your gaming table and seduce you. None will walk between you and the computer -- or TV. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you ain't ever going to find that woman you're after. You've already looked there. So, change something. People do it all the time. It can be a real bitch, but it's possible.

You've gotten a lot of good advice in this thread but pretty much everything has been met with some excuse, none of which are really insurmountable. If you don't want to hear the answer, don't ask the question.

If you want the A-number-one best thing I can think of to say to you, here it is: Go for one week doing something for someone else that you normally wouldn't do. It doesn't have to be a hawt chick. Your boss, mom, neighbor, or postman counts. Start making a habit of doing something for someone else for no other reason than to do something for someone else. And don't make a big deal of it -- at all. Don't mention it to another human being. Don't look for praise. Be prepared for them to be a bonehead for you the next minute. If you make a habit of this, it will do you wonders.

 

[PowerWordDumb]

Someone's gonna come along and yell at me for not having limitless empathy for all, but what empathy I once had evaporated around page 5 and six.

KenM ain't ever gonna breed at this point, and I honestly can't see that as a problem. If he can get over himself and accept some helpful criticism and a little self-analysis, maybe he'll one day be fit to rejoin the human race and our endless pack of "lies".

I'm not holding my breath. Many other people have overcome Asperger's to lead healthy, happy, and productive lives. KenM seems genuinely and impressively uninterested in doing so.

 

[nerfherder]

Ok, I'll try and do some of those things that TB and others have said. But I could just be saying so and telling a little lie to make all you people happy. But thats OK becuse thats how soicety works.

You just don't get it. The rest of the world does not benefit or lose based on what you do. You benefit or lose based on what you do. None of the people that have offered you advice have anything to gain beyond a warm fuzzy feeling for helping out a fellow human being. If you ignore that advice and do nothing, then some of us will shake our heads and get on with our lives - TB will get back to spending quality time with his wife and kids, and I'll be taking out the cute girl I met last week for dinner on Wednesday night. Feel free to take the advice or ignore it - it doesn't make any difference to my happiness.

Cheers,
Liam

 

[AdmundfortGeographer]

Ok, I'll try and do some of those things that TB and others have said.

There! You lied! Was that so hard?

 

[KenM]

KenM ain't ever gonna breed at this point, and I honestly can't see that as a problem.

I don't see it as a problem either. I don't want kids.

 

[Ralts Bloodthorne]

You just don't get it. The rest of the world does not benefit or lose based on what you do. You benefit or lose based on what you do. None of the people that have offered you advice have anything to gain beyond a warm fuzzy feeling for helping out a fellow human being. If you ignore that advice and do nothing, then some of us will shake our heads and get on with our lives - TB will get back to spending quality time with his wife and kids, and I'll be taking out the cute girl I met last week for dinner on Wednesday night. Feel free to take the advice or ignore it - it doesn't make any difference to my happiness.

Cheers,
Liam

All I have to add to that and what others have said is...

GOD VS YOU

 

[KenM]

As I see it, if I take the advice and comform, I become like the people in society I don't like. But if I don't, i'm still labeled a freak by most people. And you wonder why people like me don't like to go out and socialize?

 

[Greylock]

There you go, judging a person with a disablity and calling us all weasels. You have now idea of the hurt or pain I go though day to day. Don't judge me.

Whoa. I was planning on reading this thread all the way through, but this brought me to a complete halt. Disability? Hurt? Pain? For social maladroitness? Dude. We need to talk sometime.

That is not a flipping disability, and there are things that hurt a hell of a lot more than feelings. Try learning to walk again at age 39. I'm not even going to bother with the rest of this thread...

 

[The_lurkeR]

Thought it was about time for this quote...

Alright Ken, now see this? This is a four-way road, OK? And dead in the center is a crisp, new, hundred dollar bill. Now, at the end of each of these streets are four people, OK? Are you following?

Yeah

Good. Over here, we have an affectionate, easy to get along with, subservient, straight-talking woman who never lies. Down here, we have a mixed-signal sending, game-playing, fickle woman. Over here, we got Santa Claus, and up here the Easter Bunny. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first?

The fickle woman.

Good. Why?

I don't know.

Because the other three are figments of your ****ing imagination!!

(From Chasing Amy, edited of course to fit the subject at hand, and shield Grandmas eyes )

 

[KenM]

Whoa. I was planning on reading this thread all the way through, but this brought me to a complete halt. Disability? Hurt? Pain? For social maladroitness? Dude. We need to talk sometime.

That is not a flipping disability, and there are things that hurt a hell of a lot more than feelings. Try learning to walk again at age 39. I'm not even going to bother with the rest of this thread...

I had to learn to walk again at 23. I was hit by a car. AS is on the Autism spectrm. It is a known medical disability. So I consider myself a social retard, since I'm labeled with the retards.