Why do women send mixed signals?

[Alan Shutko]

As I see it, if I take the advice and comform, I become like the people in society I don't like.

Right. You'd become happy, and you don't like people like that. Come on, sign up for Beauty and the Geek... you could win a quarter mil and show everyone up!

 

[Heretic Apostate]

Why do women send mixed signals?

Simple. Because they can.

 

[nerfherder]

I did try professnial help. At the first session, after I told the Doc everything I thought I had issues with, my AS, everything, She looked right at me and said "I don't know what I can do to help you." Her EXACT WORDS. So I asked her what I was doing there, paid her my $10.00 copay, and left. I came out of that thinking that I took a risk and tryed to change, and this is what God does to help me? God must not want me to get help then, so I have to accept who I am.

Wow, and people complain about the healthcare in the UK. I didn't realise it was so bad in the US that you only have one therapist/counsellor in the whole country.

Try another therapist.

Cheers,
Liam

 

[The Shaman]

I came out of that thinking that I took a risk and tryed to change, and this is what God does to help me? God must not want me to get help then, so I have to accept who I am.

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[KenM]

My son has high functioning autism so initially I felt some sympathy toward Ken. But as this thread progressed and Ken's post grew increasing egoistically and self-deluded, sympathy turned to something boardering on rage. Every day my son struggles to engage in basic human inteaction. He often can not bring himself to talk to others and when he does his comments are often odd or inappropreate. Yet, despite his disability (which is far more profound that Ken's), he makes an real effort to connect with people. He greets friends, asks people about their favorite things and makes a point of learning the birthday of everyone he meets (he has savant abilities with names and dates and can tell you what day your birthday falls on up to 15 years in the future or past). However, Ken, who has intellectual abilities far beyond my son's, can not be bothered with any of these simple courtesies because 99.9% of humanity (or every living person but him) are, in his unshakable opinion, all lying fakes. I would give my left eye to give my son even half the communitive skill Ken has. My son will never have a girlfriend, never marry. But Ken has the gaul to whine about how his AS makes it hard for him to get a sex partner he doesn't have to pay for. He has the mental abilities and basic, if limited, social skills to successfully interact with women. He understands how AS hinders his sex buddy search but willfully chooses to make not the slightest effort to change the way he relates with others (i.e. the lying fakes). Ken raises the shield of AS in a pathetic and self-serving attempt to fend off the pointed barbs he so richly deserves. My son, who struggles to pull himself form his own inner world, shows more concern for and interest in his fellow humans than bitter, self-absorbed Ken, the AS martyr.
How dare he use autism to gain sympathy for a lonely and pathetic existence which is of his own making!

Once again, someone knows me so well they feel like they can attack me. I'm sick of it. I said I would try things that other people have metioned. But it does not happen overnight. But I still get attacked from you people.

 

[KenM]

Far less of what you have described in this thread is Asperger's than you think, and people who suffer from Asperger's can integrate into society without losing that special spark of what makes them unique.

I am someone who has been very stubborn towards suggestions that I be medicated, and to this day I am still not medicated. I recognize that different things work for different people, and I have acknowledged that my not wanting to be medicated is a personal issue rather than any real danger.

Still, I have seen people who flourish under medication, and they take the exact opposite opinion. They aren't different people because of medication. Rather, medication allows them to express who they were all along.

Well, I know most of you will think I'm BS'ing, but lots of people in my family are recoving addicts. I don't want to become like them, depentent on drugs. I have also seen people on mood altering drugs or what I call "Happy pills". Its not fun, they smile all the time and can't express any other emotion, even when they try to. I will not go though life like that.

 

[Turanil]

In reading the whole of this thread <...>

You really did?! Man, each time I get a look at it, I tire of it after reading three or four posts. I generally only read the shorter ones.

This won't prevent me to give my authorized or important opinion however:

Ken, AS or not, women (except for my daughter and my girlfriend of course) are bi@¶tc*h•es, and you should better rely on masturbation and then find some escapism in RPGs. Just my two cents of course ...

 

[The Traveler]

I have also seen people on mood altering drugs or what I call "Happy pills". Its not fun, they smile all the time and can't express any other emotion, even when they try to. I will not go though life like that.

There are two possibilities here, and one of them is more likely.

• They have been misdosed, as often mood altering medication is an ongoing process of "throw it against the wall and see what sticks" due to the subtle differences in brain chemistry. Some medications work for some people, others don't. In the early phases of medication, often doctors will put a patient through different regimens until they find a product and dosage that works best.
• You may well have simply projected your own fears of addiction onto these people and seen what you wanted to see. I know I did on more than one occasion, and I got called on it and realized what a jerk I was being.

 

[Joker]

If I say suicide is an option, would that be too harsh and inconsiderate? Because if it is, I won't say it.

 

[Mercule]

And, Joker casts "Summon Mod V" spell.