I’ll have to tweak it a bit. Drow don’t really have “Loves Of their lives”. They have “the Drow female got horny and ordered the male to either her room or the closest orgy and he either submitted or was beaten to an inch of his life and taken anyway, unless the female was a priestess or god forbid a High priestess in which case he’d be turned into a Drider (half Drow, half Spider) for daring to disobey her.”
Now, Drow males often frequented brothels, and they would have Drow and half Drow females. But the males usually took that time to get their frustrations out on the girls, as in the rest of society males are fourth class citizens and a brothel is the only place they get any dominance.
You did say she was a half Drow, half human. She would be considered “not Drow”, and the word for any species that was not Drow is ibleth, which directly translates as offal, or crap. So she would be considered an ibleth to Drow society, and was likely a servant if she was pretty enough.
Now, the books did relate that Drow aren’t inherently evil, they are conditioned that was from birth. Drizzt managed to keep his moral compass through it all, escaping when he was around 30. Very young for a Drow, really still a teenager.
So for a Drow Noble to fall in love with a servant would have been...well, technically fine, if they played it like she was nothing more than a play thing to him. But the moment anyone, especially his mother, found out he cared for her more than as a toy, they would target her. His mother likely would have forced him to kill her. Either way, she would not have been sent o the surface. No one goes to the surface. Drow hate the surface.
It’s possible he joined up with Bregan D’aerth, a mercenary band of Drow males who flaunt society’s rules, but are too useful as spies and mercs to be gotten rid of. Their leader, Jarlaxle, is my favorite character in the Drizzt books. Very flamboyant, very anti Drow. He likes collecting outcast males, especially nobles.
So, if my character fell for a half Drow, and it was discovered, then Jarlaxle could have agreed to relocate her to the surface in exchange for his services. And then they get the letter 7 years later, a drop in the bucket since they’ll live over 700.
Mc too much backstory for a character who will likely die quickly, but most of it wrote itself from what I know of Drow society.
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