You pretty explicitly said that it all just really means "I need it because Billy has it". How is that not jealousy? (Well, technically envy, but the meaning of jealous has evolved.)
First, Billy was not my example. It was one given (I think by you). I ran with it. It changes nothing though. The
need to have that extra +1 is the lion in the closet when you are trying to sleep. It is all anyone thinks about. The data tells us this. Here is a small test, one in which I have done: Run a game at a convention with premade characters. Have a dozen to choose from. Make 6 against type and 6 with race/class attribute synergy. All the rest can be random. Even from their weapons to their armor to their spells. With four-six players, guess which characters get chosen almost all the time? There is clearly a
need for players to have this extra +1. Heck, you can give the drow rogue a single dagger and the dragonborn rogue a dual wield with short swords and people don't even blink - they go for the drow.
Ok, so I just want to point out that when I joined this thread I asked a lot of questions trying to understand and clarify a position that doesn't make sense to me. Although I still don't agree with, or share, that position (or its underlying roots), I do think I understand it. At least better.
I am glad. I still do not understand your position exactly. Is their a thesis or summary? (thank you in advance.)
What I have
not done over the dozens of pages since then is:
- Try to reframe that position, or the people who hold it, in a negative light
- Try to
explain 'splain to people who hold that position what they actually mean, instead of what they say they mean
- Try to argue why that position can't be logically supported
I
could. I'll admit, it's tempting. But it's also disrespectful and, well, the very
opposite of trying to see both sides.
There is no negative light. Saying a player
needs something, and then having all the evidence point towards that, is not framing it in a negative light. You might take that word need negatively, but it is not. It is a word used to describe exactly what happens when racial ASIs are implemented, and thus, overwhelm everything else in character design.
And I have no problem correcting someone when they say they don't
need it, they just want it because it is there. That's a false statement. If all the characters you build must have that +3 to start with, you
need it. And the reason you need it, is because the game's culture or possibly mechanics tells you it is needed. There is no fault with this. There is no right or wrong playstyle or character creation.
So a position of want can't be logically supported. Data suggests race/class synergy appears to be a need.
I have given many examples in which I play synergistically and against type. I have had fun with both. These experiences have led me to an understanding that this need for race/class synergy is a matter of perception. I know you and I disagree with this part.
And for anyone that felt attacked or viewed me saying need in a negative light, you have my apology. I am sorry. It was not my intent to throw shade on anyone's character choices, arguments, or personalities.