Another "women" venting thread.

[Eolin]

I feel a need to vent. And seeing how I've already vented to my friends, the Enworld community is next.

A week and a half ago I met a girl. She's beautiful, a vegan, and fun to be around. We exchange numbers, and a few days later schedule a lunch.

She arrives half an hour late, dressed to kill and with a story of her being late due to getting distracted by her art. Did I mention she's an artist?

When I say dressed to kill ... She wa wearing this floor-length slip, and a blouse that didn't have a back. Before we left, we exchange a kiss. She turns it into a tease, which I just find more attractive. Leaves me wanting more. Much more.

I write off her being late to her being a little flaky. We arrange another date to go see Shakespeare in the Park. The plan is for me to call her, then come by and pick her up. I'll drive, as my car is in better shape than hers and its probably a 40 minute drive.

When I call her, I don't get an answer. I figure she's just being flightly, and call her back a few times that day. Maybe once or twice more than I should have, but at this point I'm growing despondent.

I try calling her the fourth to see if she wants to go to a party -- no answer.

Here it is the seventh and I still havn't heard from her. I tryed calling her one last time today, and left a message that included that I'm now pretty sure she's interested and this will be the last time I bother her.

What I find so frustrating about this little situation isn't that she's not interested -- that I could handle. But that she led me to think she was, and then changed her mind without letting me know. I was on cloud nine after our date, I presume she wasn't. Which is all well and good, people are people. But to not tell me? That's the frustating part -- I'd think I at least deserve her answering the cell and saying "Sorry, not interested."

It would have let me know a whole lot earlier, and I woudn't have had to wonder about it for days and days. Which this way I did. If there is a question here, it is likely: Why do (some) women simply stop responding when they arn't interested in a guy, instead of telling him straight up?


Note: I bathe once to twice a day. I don't have AS. I brush my teeth everyday. I eat organic fruit and yogurt. I've lost 30 pounds in the past 6 months, and exercise on an almost daily basis. I'm employed, live in an apartment, and very soon I am moving to Pittsburgh for graduate school.

 

[MaxKaladin]

very soon I am moving to Pittsburgh for graduate school.

Maybe that's it. Perhaps she decided she didn't want to bother getting involved if you were about to leave town.

 

[Crothian]

Some people just feel that it is easier to just avoid saying they aren't interested. Or she could be selfish and not care what happens to you just does what she feels is best for her. It happens and there is no real good explanation, you just need to move on and not dwell on it.

 

[was]

1.) Some women are afraid to confront males and prefer to let things simply fall apart.
2.) Artistic types don't spend much time at home. You'll probably have better luck finding her in a smoke-filled coffee shop/bistro or whatever listening to Bohemian music than at home.

 

[wgreen]

She arrives half an hour late, dressed to kill and with a story of her being late due to getting distracted by her art. Did I mention she's an artist?

When a gorgeous girl is that late to a date, you might consider bailing out yourself, calling her up on your cell, and apologizing for standing her up. It'll drive her nuts.

When I say dressed to kill ... She wa wearing this floor-length slip, and a blouse that didn't have a back. Before we left, we exchange a kiss. She turns it into a tease, which I just find more attractive. Leaves me wanting more. Much more.

...which is why she did it!

When I call her, I don't get an answer. I figure she's just being flightly, and call her back a few times that day. Maybe once or twice more than I should have, but at this point I'm growing despondent.

Yep, bad news.

What I find so frustrating about this little situation isn't that she's not interested -- that I could handle. But that she led me to think she was, and then changed her mind without letting me know. I was on cloud nine after our date, I presume she wasn't. Which is all well and good, people are people. But to not tell me? That's the frustating part -- I'd think I at least deserve her answering the cell and saying "Sorry, not interested."

It would have let me know a whole lot earlier, and I woudn't have had to wonder about it for days and days. Which this way I did. If there is a question here, it is likely: Why do (some) women simply stop responding when they arn't interested in a guy, instead of telling him straight up?

Probably because (some) women are cowards, just like (some) men. It's much easier to ignore someone in that situation until they go away than it is to confront them. It's understandable. I agree that it sucks, of course...but it's life. :\

Anyway, you'll probably never hear from her again, I'm sorry to say. Good luck to you, dude.

-Will

 

[wgreen]

Some people just feel that it is easier to just avoid saying they aren't interested. Or she could be selfish and not care what happens to you just does what she feels is best for her.

Heh...of course, the real reason is simply that she's Chaotic Evil.

-Will

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Y'know..all these recent threads about women and signals and everything just further cements my idea that if I ever become single again, I'm too damned old for this crap. I'm my own best company anyway, so it won't be that tough to just become a complete bachelor.

 

[Einan]

She's beautiful, a vegan, and fun to be around.

She doesn't eat meat! Obviously if she won't kill a cow for culinary pleasure she's too nuts to worry with!

Dump her and find a nice carnivorous girl. Sure you'll always watch your digits around her mouth, but at least you can go out for a steak once in a while.

Einan

 

[The Shaman]

Note: I bathe once to twice a day. I don't have AS. I brush my teeth everyday. I eat organic fruit and yogurt. I've lost 30 pounds in the past 6 months, and exercise on an almost daily basis. I'm employed, live in an apartment, and very soon I am moving to Pittsburgh for graduate school.

There's the problem right there: you lack personal drama.

 

[BiggusGeekus]

Look at it this way, now you're free to sleep with her sister.