When I was 10, I pocketed a candy bar at the store.
Unfortunately for me, it wasn't store security that caught me at my first, and ONLY attempt at theft.
My Father caught me.
I swept the parking lot of that store, with a push broom, on Saturday and Sunday, with My Father watching over me.
And a sign around my neck that said: "I TRIED TO STEAL FROM THIS STORE!"
I have NEVER stolen since. Not even when I found a box with a tear across it that a DVD-RW was in 2 years ago. A $200 piece of hardware I came to the store to buy. When I took it to the counter, the lady behind the counter told me that if I left it with her, I could grab another, and she would ring me through.
I corrected her, then wandered back to buy the same brand and model.
The thought of stealing makes my hands shake just thinking about it.
People say public shame doesn't do anything, but how many of these parents would let thier children run wild if we still had little old ladies who commented on: "In MY day, we'd never..." and other parents who would call the parents of the little cretin to task for it? If there was more shame attatched to adultry for committing it, how many people would do it? If there was more shame for many of the things that are so common, yet completely rude, that take place daily in our society, how many of them would still go on?
It's considered rude or shameful to make a scene for telling that arrogant half-wit in the store who is in the 10 items or less line with a full cart to go somewhere else, it's considered rude to tell a parent: "Control that little animal before I muzzle it" when little Johnny Worthless is standing on top of his chair screaming at the top of his lungs because his fat little butt can't have a third piece of pie. But not rude of Johnny or his worthless mother.
The lack of public shame has led to a lot of this.
From: "It hurts a child's esteem if they are held back a grade because they are too lazy to do thier homework or apply themselves in class." to "It's rude to tell that insensitive jackass not to park in the handicapped space." we're the losers.
The kid can't hold a job and the ones he does hold, he can't do worth a crap because he's too ignorant and lazy. Mr. Arrogance figures he's above the law and cool, so he drives drunk and runs over your kid.
Public shame and personal accountability aren't bad things.