Wicht, you may perceive that people are telling you that you are playing wrong, but apparently 4E fans are narrow, inflexible, problematic, and drunk:
I can't speak for everyone that has commented, Wicht, but I do not think, nor have I meant to imply that you avoid any problems other may have had as you playing wrong.
My problems with 3E do not stem from the 15MAD or disparity in power between casters and non-casters. But I did have problems with power gap. Byron and now BotE claim that I'm "doing it wrong" otherwise I would not encounter the problem like they did. That since I am the one with the problem it must be me "playing drunk" and couldn't possibly be the system.
I do see the problem I had with 3E as systemic. How many people do you see here that call for the solution of banning presitge classes, feats, whole splat books? I've personally seen alot. I've even been told I'm "doing it wrong" by allowing official splat books. Yet, the splats were part of the system by design. Something the developers expected you to use. I'm not saying anyone who didn't use them was wrong, but neither are those of us who did use them. And the system, especially open multiclassing in my experience, failed the add-on of the new books. I have not yet experienced that issue with 4E. I'm not saying it's the right edition for everyone, but it fixed one of my deal-breakers for me.
I am perfectly OK with people recognizing problems in 3rd edition and leaving for 4e. EVERY RPG has its problems and the players choose which problems are unbearable. I do not think players of 4e play wrong. I have long time friends that like to play 4e, and I know how they play. I do not think they suddenly altered their playing style.
Recently in this thread there are alot of people trying to play the 'gotcha game' as if they were trying to get someone like me, or Byron, or wicht, to just say, "Fighters were unplayable." I have seen no evidence of that. I have heard that people have problems with it. I am willing to concede that people had problems that made the game unenjoyable for them. I will not concede that it made D&D 3rd edition unplayable.
Perhaps we can have SPIKE channel do a completely arbitrary documentary on what the better system is, the same way they arbitrarily match up warriors against each other with no historical or scientific context.